what's the best thing about living alone??

princess_loki

Hi savemefromsinking

Your list sounds incredibly similar to what I was putting up with except exOH did not work at all so I paid for everything.

You will be so much happier on your own I promise you.

I have spent today cleaning the house and it is great to know it will still be just as clean and tidy tomorrow when I get home from work.

I have an electric blanket which makes the bed so cosy and warm and I can sit there for hours reading my book - absolute bliss

It took me a good few months to get used to being on my own but now I actually enjoy coming home whereas before I dreaded it.

To be at peace in your own home is worth far more than anything in the world and you will feel so much better for it.

I have been setting myself challenges and making myself have the courage to try out new experiences. I went rally driving when I saw a Groupon offer - scary to get out there and do things but a brilliant achivement and confidence booster when you do and it was something my ex would never have wanted to do.

I also joined the gym and have made new friends there - it is also a place that I can happily go to on my own and it gets me out of the house. I can afford these things as I am no longer paying all the bills and buying food for someone who gave me absolutely NOTHING back.

Believe me you are worth a hell of a lot more than the way you have been treated recently.

Keep smiling and keep positive xxxxxx

System

-Having the bed to myself
-Not being woken up every 5 minutes cos i'm snoring
-Being able to just sit in my room and chill without feeling i have to be with them 24/7
-Being able to leave the washing up a day or two
-The toilet seat STAYING DOWN (though my bf does leave it down when he visits )
-Not having to cook for 2 people
-not having arguements over anything and everything
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Fire_Fox

savemefromsinking wrote: »

My list of things I won't miss:

being woken up at least once a night- OH late to bed in the early hours, stealing blanket, snoring

OH smoking

always doing the cooking, laundry, housework

always having to chivvy OH or ask them to contribute with housework

having to cajole or drag them out to anything social

morning breath/aversion to teeth brushing

OH toxic relationship with family

OH addiction with online gaming and its inflexible schedule

bitterness and jealousy over any success I have at work, meaning comments on how I shouldn't ask OH to contribute to all the petrol costs from driving OH around as I earn more

lack of ambition or motivation

constant complaining, negativity, glass half-empty woe is me attitude

OH booking time off work for a holiday which never appears then smoking/playing online for 12-14 hour stretches at a time

constant moaning when food shopping

having to online shop in order to avoid moaning

how everything is a hassle and chore

poor standards of personal hygiene

a partner who is in love with their PC

aggression and anger when socks, underwear, workwear hasnt been washed and prepared- but never actually putting on a load of laundry

not paying 50% of the rent/bills just because I earn more, even though it amounts to only 1/3 of their income

average sex

:j Sounds like you are well rid of that little charmer!!! :j

CheeseCat

princess_loki wrote: »

Hi savemefromsinking

Your list sounds incredibly similar to what I was putting up with except exOH did not work at all so I paid for everything.

Was literally JUST thinking that, and you posted it.

Living alone for 18 months almost now, didn't realise it had been that long! and loving it. This thread is awesome xx

maria6259

i was on my own, till my son and his partner moved back in ......

but i have christmas day all sussed, my daughter and family are going to son in law's parents, and my son is going to his partner's family (overnight!!)

i can't believe it but i will have (most of) Christmas day on my own!!

and i'm looking forward to it

does this make me sad?

converted

I have lived on my own for years - far too independent now to consider living with someone else - however until last year i had never spent a christmas on my own - i think family & friends felt sorry for me and i always got invites - but thing is i always wanted to spend christmas on my own and it was as good as i thought it would be. I was determined that i would have beans on toast, but gave into tradition and bought one of those pre-pared chicken roasts complete with stuffing etc- apart from that i loved it, did not get dressed until 2pm, shock horrer did not watch the queens speech. I did not think it was sad at all, but everyone else seemed to have more of a problem with it than i did, even when i told them that it was what i absolutely wanted to do -
Spending christmas with family this year, as long as i get to have it on my own next year!

[Deleted User]

Ive lived on my own since 2007 with and without boyfriends. No one has moved in with me and maybe never will. But now i have no boyfriend/partner im feeling a bit lonely and bored. Ive done all the DIY to my place so ive bought everything and im very MSE anyway so dont like just going shopping for the sake of it. I find filling my time without spending lots of money is the main bugbear. I do have friends but there all loved up and getting on with there own lives. Ive sort of met a new fellow but its not working out as our views are totally different and how he is goes against all i was bought up by. So although yes i love living alone i would like someone to share my life with.

diable

Walking around the house bollock naked.

moneyistooshorttomention

Ah...but no-one seems to have mentioned the BIG things. I know all about the advantages of choosing what to eat/when to eat/re tv programmes/etc....

..but it's the BIG things that really count I believe. I am now moving and I and I alone have been able to decide whether to move/where to move/when to move and will choose the house on my own and get that house exactly as I want it.

If I'd got a husband now - he might decide he didn't want to move - let alone to another part of the country in the first place or be pushing to move to somewhere I don't like. Since it's just me, then I've decided based purely on my own wishes.:D

Frith

Things I don't miss about my ex...

1) His smoking.

2) The thought of the tens of thousands of pounds of debt he was in that he refused to acknowledge let alone do anything about.

3) His strange attitude towards his ex wife - sort of fawning and creeping - and the fact he still worked with her.

4) His refusal to let me meet a single one of his friends or colleagues. In 14 months together, I was only allowed to meet his mum!

5) The fact he was proud he had never cleaned his kitchen floor. I presume his wife must have cleaned it but he had been divorced for 4 years when I met him. I never took my shoes off!

6) His silly driving.

7) The way he pretty much ignored my children.

8) How dismissive and harsh he could be with his own children.

9) His obsession with rugby *yawn*

10) Lack of teeth cleaning.

11) Lack of "intimacy" and that he thought he was quite good in bed........

12) His strange letchy-ness towards other women.

13) His constant blaming of other people for everything.

14) That he was involved in a disciplinary at work basically for bullying someone he managed (he blamed that man as well).

15) His absolute refusal ever to commit to a day or time when he would come and see me, leaving me hanging on til the last minute waiting for a text.

16) His refusal to take his health problems seriously.

17) Telling me he had told me something or saying "I never said that" when I have the sort of memory that means I can recall conversations word for word...

18) Being told he will never get married again, never leave his job or his house and never want to have children with me.

19) His CONSTANTLY texting people or playing on his phone.

20) Getting dumped in a 2 word text message.

I've been single since the end of September and it's great!