FINALLY DONE IT: Tayforth's new beginning

tayforth

Exactly! Just knowing that you're finally free of him, legally as well as mentally, will be fantastic. I'll be over the moon when it happens to me.

Onwards and upwards for both of us, and all the others going through similar situations! xxx

Peanut2013

We should have a celebration when they both go through

tayforth

Peanut2013 wrote: »

We should have a celebration when they both go through

YES.

Cheers!

:beer: :beer:

tayforth

Afternoon!

Well, what lovely weather at last I went to visit an elderly neighbour today to tell her my news - I thought that shed been shocked but she wasn't. She said that her daughter had been suffering physical abuse for years before leaving her husband. I was gobsmacked. You learn something new every day!!!

So now I'm going to sit in the sun, in the hope that it helps my rash. Its not improving really. I have a doctor's appointment next Thursday and hope that she can suggest something if it's not away by then.

How is everyone?

victory

tayforth wrote: »

Afternoon!

Well, what lovely weather at last I went to visit an elderly neighbour today to tell her my news - I thought that shed been shocked but she wasn't. She said that her daughter had been suffering physical abuse for years before leaving her husband. I was gobsmacked. You learn something new every day!!!

So now I'm going to sit in the sun, in the hope that it helps my rash. Its not improving really. I have a doctor's appointment next Thursday and hope that she can suggest somehing if it's not away by then.

How is everyone?

Happy that you are now happy:D

tayforth

victory wrote: »

Happy that you are now happy:D

Thank you so much victory - how kind of you to say so xx

jackieblack

victory wrote: »

Happy that you are now happy:D

I think that sums it up nicely!

I'm sure all of us who've followed your story feel the same, Tayforth

tayforth

jackieblack wrote: »

I think that sums it up nicely!

I'm sure all of us who've followed your story feel the same, Tayforth

Thank you, jackieblack :A - I'm touched that you've been following my story xxx

Tinka85

Hi. I am new here.
I know somebody who is feeling the same way as you. And my advice to her is, if you are not happy then you have to just let go. 7 years is a very long time and I think when you're with someone for so long it just becomes a bit of a habit. A habit which can't be stopped. It's a routine. Sometimes being alone is better than being unhappy with somebody.
My friend also isn't attracted to her boyfriend anymore too. It has just gone that way. That spark goes when that feeling of pure love goes. It cant be helped.
Opening up isn't easy. And I can tell it's pretty hard for you, since as you've started this thread anonymously.
There isn't a second chance choice here, life isn't a rehearsal. We cant come back and try again. It's your life - not his. You may be married but it doesn't mean your tied down forever. You can get out. If it isn't working for you then it isn't working for you! Don't let his apologies fool you, if he was sorry then he wouldn't of done the things he has done or said the things he has said in the first place, specially if he loves you.
Don't hold on to something that isn't there.
I would rather be alone than be in an unhappy relationship.
And growing feelings for somebody else is truly normal. This guy you like sounds like a decent lad, and you can see a better life with this guy, (although you wont act upon these feelings) and because he's such a nice lad, you are drawn to him because the man you're with isn't nice. He's nasty to you and he makes you feel bad. Don't stay with someone who makes you feel bad. You don't deserve that and you don't need it neither.
It's your life - not his. You can choose whether he's in it or not. It's up to you!
Break free before it gets too late. Listen to that song "Young hearts, Run free" I've forgotten the name of the singer but it's quite a popular song. The words are very fitting to your situation.

Please private message me if you would like to talk more.

tayforth

Tinka85 wrote: »

Hi. I am new here.
I know somebody who is feeling the same way as you. And my advice to her is, if you are not happy then you have to just let go. 7 years is a very long time and I think when you're with someone for so long it just becomes a bit of a habit. A habit which can't be stopped. It's a routine. Sometimes being alone is better than being unhappy with somebody.
My friend also isn't attracted to her boyfriend anymore too. It has just gone that way. That spark goes when that feeling of pure love goes. It cant be helped.
Opening up isn't easy. And I can tell it's pretty hard for you, since as you've started this threat anonymously.
There isn't a second chance choice here, life isn't a rehearsal. We cant come back and try again. It's your life - not his. You may be married but it doesn't mean your tied down forever. You can get out. If it isn't working for you then it isn't working for you! Don't let his apologies fool you, if he was sorry then he wouldn't of done the things he has done or said the things he has said in the first place, specially if he loves you.
Don't hold on to something that isn't there.
I would rather be alone than be in an unhappy relationship.
And growing feelings for somebody else is truly normal. This guy you like sounds like a decent lad, and you can see a better life with this guy, (although you wont act upon these feelings) and because he's such a nice lad, you are drawn to him because the man you're with isn't nice. He's nasty to you and he makes you feel bad. Don't stay with someone who makes you feel bad. You don't deserve that and you don't need it neither.
It's your life - not his. You can choose whether he's in it or not. It's up to you!
Break free before it gets too late. Listen to that song "Young hearts, Run free" I've forgotten the name of the singer but it's quite a popular song. The words are very fitting to your situation.

Please private message me if you would like to talk more.

Hi Tinka85, and thanks so much for your post. I did make the decision to leave, and it was the right thing to do. But your post has reminded me of how I was feeling at the beginning, and reinforced my decision. What you say is absolutely right. It's still early days, but already I know that I'm happier alone than I was in my marriage.

I hope that your friend appreciates your support and finds the courage to seek happiness xxx