What would you contribute?

pipkin71

victory wrote: »

Teenagers have no manners these days, not had any definite introductions, neither party made any effort, the kids are well into each other, the parents are an embarrassment :rotfl:

I get on fabulously with the mother of my daughter's boyfriend. She's lovely

I can still be an embarrassment though

DeeDee74

Tbh why throw a party where everyone buys there own food then moves to anothrr venue spends money on fancy dress and ohhh buys there own drinks!! I cant see how its a party at all.... I think its a cheek...

victory

Good morning:D I have sorted it all out now, OH came home we chatted about it and here it is....

No to the hire of the hall etc etc that is for them the young ones to sort out, deal with, pay for very OTT and teenagerish so not our scene so if not going, knew nothing about it etc not contributing to that part.

Dinner out sure we're in, my son's mates are a great laugh, we could hear them at the restaurant:rotfl: rather than the hired hall with dj;)

I can understand it's all exciting and friends are leaving, etc etc but I have bills to pay, I can't just go dancing:rotfl:

The fancy dress is probably going to be dropped, the table decs uhm, mass hysteria over taken by the moment will crash back down to a meal out which is super fine by me:D

victory

Also it's very much going to fizzle down in numbers like I said before because it is a thursday night, all the youngsters originally say yeah let's do it, then reality like an early friday am kicks in or the cost and they slowly but surely make excuses and pull out;)

peachyprice

So it'll probably end up as your family and hers then

I'm assuming her parents are invited? If so it might actually turn out to be a nice evening getting to know them better.

victory

peachyprice wrote: »

So it'll probably end up as your family and hers then

I'm assuming her parents are invited? If so it might actually turn out to be a nice evening getting to know them better.

Yes they are to the evening do which we are not going to:rotfl: I reckon common sense is going to prevail and the evening will be withered down to pointless and just fix itself on the meal;)

Amanda65

One of my best lessons I have learned as a parent is that it's often best to go "Hmm, really? Well keep me posted with the arrangements and then once I have all the info I can make a decision" - and then someone else says no, or plans fall flat, and I look like the 'nice' Mummy who was going to go along with plans, having not actually said yes or no :j.

It seems as though your sons GF got a little over enthusiastic and has now realised that it things need to be scaled down. Nice idea and all that but I can only imagine the ribbing my 17 yo son would get from his mates if his GF held a party to celebrate their love. I think your son has had a lucky escape lol.

victory

Amanda65 wrote: »

One of my best lessons I have learned as a parent is that it's often best to go "Hmm, really? Well keep me posted with the arrangements and then once I have all the info I can make a decision" - and then someone else says no, or plans fall flat, and I look like the 'nice' Mummy who was going to go along with plans, having not actually said yes or no :j.

It seems as though your sons GF got a little over enthusiastic and has now realised that it things need to be scaled down. Nice idea and all that but I can only imagine the ribbing my 17 yo son would get from his mates if his GF held a party to celebrate their love. I think your son has had a lucky escape lol.

So do I:rotfl: he would have both sets of parents there, loads of brothers and sisters, grandparents for a night out?:rotfl: not what he would want or expect, the dinner idea if there has to be an idea is the best one, no fancy dress, no long evening of endless spending on booze etc just the meal, keep it simple:D

She has all my thoughts in texts, so now she can go and ask all her people and my people will wait to meet in the middle:rotfl:

OrkneyStar

victory wrote: »

I have tried to not come across as mummy and I know best, you need to cut your cloth etc etc but I seem to be battling against someone who can't hear me, she keeps texting for an answer, I'm guessing to see how much money she has to play with?

Tell her you are saving up so you can give son something later on in life, e.g. when he gets married or is buying a house or has a child.
I would be reluctant to give much unless there was a really good reason for this event!