what would you do if!!!!!!

Torry_Quine

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Why am I not surprised to see you backing this latest moralistic cause?


I've worked in hundreds of offices and the women are by far the worst, the amount of times I've been under a desk and been asked "while your down there love" isn't worth thinking about. But it's alot

It's what your comfortable with, if you don't like banter then don't mix with the type of people that do it. ie tbf, probably most people. Obviously religious people wouldn't dream of talking about a member of the opposite sex like this, but I expect a few think it.

As for the person who said that when you are with someone it means no more fantasising about anyone else...... or you're not with the right person..... honestly, I don't know what to say, how can you possibly explain the basics of sexuality to someone like that? I just feel sorry for your OH.

Why am I not surprised that you use this to attack my viewpoint as usual!

Maybe I've been fortunate but when working I haven't come across this type of behaviour and neither has my OH actually. To me this is unacceptable behaviour and shows just how far society has fallen that people can speak so disrespectfully of others.

I agree that fantasising about someone else is very wrong and I can't understand why you would if your relationship is good?

Lotus-eater

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Why am I not surprised that you use this to attack my viewpoint as usual!

Maybe I've been fortunate but when working I haven't come across this type of behaviour and neither has my OH actually. To me this is unacceptable behaviour and shows just how far society has fallen that people can speak so disrespectfully of others.

I agree that fantasising about someone else is very wrong and I can't understand why you would if your relationship is good?

Society has fallen :rotfl: Literally LOL, you think men have only just started talking about women as sex objects, you are so blinkered it's unbelievable.

I expect you put such an aura of aloofness around you, that people never have a laugh with you,

As for thinking fantasising is wrong....... just, words fail me, they honestly do. I would say your sex life must be boring, but you would come back with the fact that it is very healthy thankyou. But I know we aren't even in the same book, let alone the same page.

Tropez

Torry_Quine wrote: »

This went far beyond finding someone attractive though.

In your view, perhaps.

However, I was responding to the comment made by another that people who fantasise about others are in the wrong relationship.

rachel90

julie8314dave wrote: »

sorry about the capps, keyboard is playing up.

My partner must have sat on his phone dialed the last number, i did not answer, the phone went to answerphone.

He appologised straightaway whilst he was listening to the message, then when he heard the bit about the girl at work he said there is no girl i was just fed up with him going on all the time, i thought it would shut him up, he has said sorry a thousand times and can not see why i would think he would do this to me.

Sorry if this has been said, just skimmed the first page but he was talking to a co worker about a girl at work and then told you there is no girl at work but that he was fed up with the co worker going on?
Is that right? If it is correct, surely the co worker would know about this girl and whether or not she exists?

tinktinktinkerbell

victory wrote: »

Wow, from one answering machine message, 16 year?:eek:

Nah, not nice to hear but it is male ego playing off each other and banter all the way, hardly meant that he is off and strayed and is the devil incarnate.

yes quite frankly

sorry but i do not want to hear about my OH wanting to do another female

Torry_Quine

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Society has fallen :rotfl: Literally LOL, you think men have only just started talking about women as sex objects, you are so blinkered it's unbelievable.

I expect you put such an aura of aloofness around you, that people never have a laugh with you,

As for thinking fantasising is wrong....... just, words fail me, they honestly do. I would say your sex life must be boring, but you would come back with the fact that it is very healthy thankyou. But I know we aren't even in the same book, let alone the same page.

I am well aware that some men talk of women as sex objects. In this case though the comments were degrading and should be objectionable to all decent people. I'm not aloof and definitely know how to laugh with others.

I'm sorry that you can't see that fantasising is not a sign of a healthy relationship.

As for your final comments, it's frankly none of your business.

Tropez wrote: »

In your view, perhaps.

However, I was responding to the comment made by another that people who fantasise about others are in the wrong relationship.

EllaBeagle

Tropez wrote: »

Yes, because once you're in a relationship with the right person, everybody else on the planet instantly becomes unattractive.

No, when you're in a meaningful relationship, no one else compares to your partner, you're happy with what you've got and you have enough self control not to look elsewhere or even think about it.

victory

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

yes quite frankly

sorry but i do not want to hear about my OH wanting to do another female

Yes do another woman but in fantasy land, the land where all your dreams come true but you don't act on them, they are just a bit of harmless, irresponsible maybe but none the less harmless, daft, ficticious chatter banter.

tinktinktinkerbell

victory wrote: »

Yes do another woman but in fantasy land, the land where all your dreams come true but you don't act on them, they are just a bit of harmless, irresponsible maybe but none the less harmless, daft, ficticious chatter banter.

i dont care what it is, the fact he was even thinking about doing things with another female is a no no for me!

minnie123

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

i dont care what it is, the fact he was even thinking about doing things with another female is a no no for me!

What if your OH was on a forum with a picture of a girl he fancied as his profile pic and posts of him saying he finds them cute and has imagined and thought about them? Would that not be acceptable?