what would you do if!!!!!!

Peater

Read.

She said somewhere earlier that the phone was in his pocket and dialled her by accident while he was chatting with colleague face-to-face.

My 2 penneth - While it is pretty horrid what he was saying, i wouldn't see it as a betrayal. Some of the 'conversations' i have with one colleague during lunch would shock and offend 90% of the people on this board. It's all 'willy-waving' as someone posted eloquently earlier.

Torry_Quine

Tropez wrote: »

Yes, because once you're in a relationship with the right person, everybody else on the planet instantly becomes unattractive.

This went far beyond finding someone attractive though.

penguin83

I would take it as male banter too. In fairness I think my colleagues (female) could give most a run for their money - they are filthy, the older ones are the worst! xx

pink_princess

It sounds like it was just banter, even admitting he'd have to pay her a lot of money to even go near him :eek:

carefullycautious

Its no different to myself and other female friends saying of a good looking man that we ' wouldnt throw him out of bed'.

Also whilst discussing another good looker who was young and single saying that he wouldnt be sleeping alone if I was 20 years younger.

etc etc etc

It was just unfortunate that his mobile rang your phone.

As for throwing away 16 years :eek:

Crisp_£_note

Show him your thread so he can see how you talk about him when hes defenceless and it may show him how you feel about the attitude.

Alternatively IF you really trust him let it go before it festers and you break up a marriage that a few days ago was happy.

The second option as above is more advisable though I think!?

Happy new year to you

carefullycautious

penguin83 wrote: »

I would take it as male banter too. In fairness I think my colleagues (female) could give most a run for their money - they are filthy, the older ones are the worst! xx

Precisely!!!

Torry_Quine

carefullycautious wrote: »

Its no different to myself and other female friends saying of a good looking man that we ' wouldnt throw him out of bed'.

Also whilst discussing another good looker who was young and single saying that he wouldnt be sleeping alone if I was 20 years younger.

etc etc etc

It was just unfortunate that his mobile rang your phone.

As for throwing away 16 years :eek:

Speak for yourself and those you know. I have never had conversations such as you describe and would be very embarrassed and uncomfortable to hear anyone talking in such a way.

DonaldTrumpsHair

ska_lover wrote: »

Op chill out. I am a woman, and it really does seem like male banter. Females are just as guilty of it too - I work in an environment with two other women, and some of the convos we have of an afternoon are pure filth, the latest s*x positions, the lot - we never go home and discuss it with our husbands. Men behave differently with other men, the same as females do with other females.

This all sounds incredibly immature and distasteful to my ears. I would hate to think of my wife being hurt by a conversation such as this, though it will never happen as incredible as it may sound, not all men talk about women in such a derogatory way or vice versa.

Of course one finds others attractive to but there is such a thing as discretion surely? Boasting about what you would do given half a chance just appears foolish and I would imagine the people listening to you think you are a pr@tt even if they go along with you!

Some people just cannot appreciate what they have at home and they may well take a look in the mirror to realise they are not God's gift and there are many people out there who will be happy to use and discard them.

If the young lady in question would be flattered by this conversation, then one would have to wonder just what kind of self worth she has.

I have every sympathy for the OP and I hope her partner realises how hurt she has every right to feel.

I am old fashioned I know, before you accuse me of being an out of date fuddy duddy.;)

Lotus-eater

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Speak for yourself and those you know. I have never had conversations such as you describe and would be very embarrassed and uncomfortable to hear anyone talking in such a way.

Why am I not surprised to see you backing this latest moralistic cause?


I've worked in hundreds of offices and the women are by far the worst, the amount of times I've been under a desk and been asked "while your down there love" isn't worth thinking about. But it's alot

It's what your comfortable with, if you don't like banter then don't mix with the type of people that do it. ie tbf, probably most people. Obviously religious people wouldn't dream of talking about a member of the opposite sex like this, but I expect a few think it.

As for the person who said that when you are with someone it means no more fantasising about anyone else...... or you're not with the right person..... honestly, I don't know what to say, how can you possibly explain the basics of sexuality to someone like that? I just feel sorry for your OH.