what would you do if!!!!!!

meritaten

EdgEy wrote: »

You consider it disrespect, others do not.

I suppose that if you 'caught your husband' in such a position, then would be the time to state clearly your views on the subject.

I don't really see that we can gain anything here, it's a difference in opinion. Rather pointless to argue against another's view on a subject that's clearly dependent on individual morals.

Oh - and if I overheard a couple of girls talking about me in the same way, I wouldn't consider it degrading, I'd consider it a compliment. But yes, it would be uncomfortable, in that I'd have to hide a massive smirk every time I saw said individuals.

would you really? suppose you heard them sniggering about your small !!!!!!? would you really feel good about that? or perhaps they are sniggering about your potbellie? that would be ok would it?
you are arrogantly thinking that people would be complimenting you! I doubt that.

EllaBeagle

shegirl wrote: »

That's what OH said when I kindly 'reminded' him that I turned down Johnny Depp to be with him.Not sure why he reacted in such a manner....:rotfl:

More on topic though,a few weeks back I was teasing him saying I was going to go off with the gorgeous italian guy who had just delivered our takeaway,after saying he was a hot italian.He just replied with 'I think he's probably busy'...I made for the door saying 'oh,he will be' and he creased with laughter! We can tease each other and be relaxed about things because we trust and know each other

Good for you!! :T

dirtysexymonkey

EllaBeagle wrote: »

Would like to know the woman's opinion at the centre of this 'male banter'

she might have the self worth to laugh it off. she may even have made the same statements about the ops oh.

she may not be so feeble as to be crying into her vapours if someone says something she doesnt like.;)

NAR

meritaten wrote: »

would you really? suppose you heard them sniggering about your small !!!!!!? would you really feel good about that?

Come on EdgEy, defend your two incher! :eek: He might be small, but he's a good worker, right, EdgEy?

Derivative

NAR wrote: »

Come on EdgEy, defend your two incher! :eek: He might be small, but he's a good worker, right, EdgEy?

I picked up my partner from the local nunnery. What she doesn't know won't hurt her.

would you really? suppose you heard them sniggering about your small !!!!!!? would you really feel good about that? or perhaps they are sniggering about your potbellie? that would be ok would it?
you are arrogantly thinking that people would be complimenting you! I doubt that.

Two things to note here - I'm not advocating harassment. It is of course despicable to discuss such matters directly to a person, or in close proximity in which they could overhear, unless in a close friendship and the statements do not cause embarrasment or discomfort.

I have friends of which I would feel comfortable making similar statements too - though I'd probably not nowadays as it would be rather flirty and not something my partner would be comfortable with.

Secondly: I don't have a pot belly. If I did, I would be comfortable with my appearance, but I'd probably step up the diet/exercise for health reasons.

I don't really see it as relevant what my co-workers say about me behind my back. Especially if we don't socialize outside the workplace.

ska_lover

Op chill out. I am a woman, and it really does seem like male banter. Females are just as guilty of it too - I work in an environment with two other women, and some of the convos we have of an afternoon are pure filth, the latest s*x positions, the lot - we never go home and discuss it with our husbands. Men behave differently with other men, the same as females do with other females.

If it were me though, i would pretend I was upset, and tell him only ben and jerrys icecream would make it better and rush him up tescos lol

Torry_Quine

I am shocked that so many of you seem to think there is nothing wrong here and its just the way men talk. :eek: Well, it certainly shouldn't be and none of the men I know would think it acceptable but then obviously some people don't think you should respect others.

EllaBeagle

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I am shocked that so many of you seem to think there is nothing wrong here and its just the way men talk. :eek: Well, it certainly shouldn't be and none of the men I know would think it acceptable but then obviously some people don't think you should respect others.

I agree. Its a sad world we live in when people think its ok to refer to someone close to a prostitute not to mention the total lack of respect and disregarding their partner.

Does no one have morals these days?

If people are fantasising about other people when in a relationship then they obviously haven't found the right person yet.

Tropez

EllaBeagle wrote: »

If people are fantasising about other people when in a relationship then they obviously haven't found the right person yet.

Yes, because once you're in a relationship with the right person, everybody else on the planet instantly becomes unattractive.

busiscoming2

I don't quite understand how you can get an answerphone message with two people talking on it, unless it was deliberately recorded or am I behind the times?