My eldest has changed his xmas list

victory

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aliasojo

victory wrote: »

I woke up this morning with an idea of how to handle since posting my idea is not everyone elses idea and it has been made clear it is a bad idea, so listen some more, back to the drawing board, back to what is a good idea?

Because I don't take everyones ideas and run with them that is negative?

No, it's your reaction to them that is negative. It's ok not to agree, but you do seem quite quick to be defensive? (Imo)

Yes, there have been a few not so nice posts, but the vast majority have been trying to help and we've all said the same thing.

Am I being suggested at or browed down, battered down, you should do this andhtis will work and only do that, sure you had ideas of your own but there are no good does that make it negative?

Well I don't see the replies as you being battered down. You do. That shows the difference in the way we think. The way you think doesn't seem to be working with sorting things out with your son, so that's why we are telling you to stop acting the same way and to do something different.

Can you not say on here often you get somewhat bullied, battered to agree, if yo don't I am off? Do you not get suggestions that you do agree with?

I'm not sure what you mean by the last part?

Are you referring to past threads of mine where I have had run ins with people telling me what to do?

Sure I've had the frustration of dealing with people who really don't see the whole picture.

Is that what you think this thread is like?

aliasojo

victory wrote: »

My son has just rang up and I said we were off to mac for lunch if he wanted to come and he said yes he did so we are all going, if it comes up I will talk about it, if it doesn't we will have a lovely lunch together can't get fairer than that:D

Hope you have a nice day. x

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Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

If it were which is not acontest there is no winning now, you know that, this thread is too long, I come on and say yes this is it I am doing this only to get replies no way do not do that madness woman do this, so they turn it to me, so I agree then to do that and then others come on and go omg woman can you not just settle on one thing and do that? Why oh why are you going to do that when you said this and others said this, confused?

Very very confused. Take a bit longer writing your answers, this is virtually unreadable.

victory

aliasojo wrote: »

Hope you have a nice day. x

Thank you the sun isshining the kids are looking forward to it all good:D

victory

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victory

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Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

Oh right this bit you mean?

Was saying that if this were a contest there would be no winners, I cannot be a winner as posters feel that I am ignoring them, they cannot be winners as they feel time wasted and I am not acting on what they say.

I said I was going to do x y and z got a load of posters saying madness, do not do that, do this instead, can't change to that so posters think omg stupid woman will not listen.

If I do change to that the other posters say no, no ,no do not do that that is madness, do this instead.

So if I change from one idea to the next that is me not being continuous, wasting peoples timebeing indecisive, being a mad woman.

If you go one way uproar, if I go another more uproar, you see?

You must be reading a different thread to me and everyone else. That's all I can say.

Bumpmakesfour

Well hats off to you is all I can say hun,because if my DS had spoken to me or behaved like,caused me yet another guilt ridden sleepless night that I wouldn't be toddling off for lunch with him today before I got a sincere apology.But then again maybe I'm a mean mum:p