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My eldest has changed his xmas list
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thatgirlsam wrote: »
he goes on regardless of that, he goes on regardless of deterrents and he goes on regardlss of knowng that he will not get, he goes on when he thinks he is owed, he demands, he deserves, he needs , he wants he goes on and on and then he stops when he gets negatives when he gets the idea no laptop and he settles and then he goes on and on agai for another birthday etc
Then let him. He is a grown man and responsible for his own behaviour.
Oh I give up. I can't see you changing the way you deal with this. I will look out for the next thread where you post pages and pages wanting advice that you do not take0 -
He is and it is, I know we all know that, he knows that that is why time gets spent running slowly but surely through points on here and acting on them regardless of people saying I don't listen or take heed oh yes I do, act on them all no I don't, I can see I am not consistent, I can see he leads me a merry dance, I want him to be happy, my crime is wanting a merry xmas day and his crime is being so demanding he spoils it for us for himself he ends up the looser in every which way but then again we all and whatever is said or done he cannot see past the end of what he wants
He is not happy. A happy person does not act this way...£608.98
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He strops and I go through the range, I listen, hear, understand, try to explain, see his side, put my side across, he cannot understand my side anyone's side has no point, he sees it this way and whatever that is that end of so there it clashes, it starts, it becomes more than it needs to.
Originally it was equal yes and now this so yet again it is him and his demands
i cant think where he gets that from. :rotfl:Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
No of course he is not happy because he does not get what he wants, I am not happy because I would maybe like to give him what he wants but can't, he is not happy because he chases the materialistic dream and it never comes true, I am not happy because he causes himself unnecesary pain and hurt, who could be happy seeing your son tying himself in knots, he will never be satisfied if he faces life like this no
this is where you have gone wrong I'm afraid£608.98
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He is a good lad and he will admit to you he click a lot and nothing happens hence thefrustration and the I am off scenario, he lives off dreams of bigger and better wants to beat his mates, we can't do thatfor him, he knows that, he hopes, we according to him let him down, on and on it goes
Surely that should say won't!!
My son (then 8y/o) wanted to beat his mates and have better when we weren't in the position to do it (not that we would of anyway) I told him no, meant it and it was pretty much tough for him. I used to sit down and explain things, but he still went on.
Now he is 12 y/o and we are in a better position to afford things... yet still I don't care if he wants to beat his mates and have better the answer is still NO!!! The difference is that now he has grown up, works his Saturday job (although just learnt that Dad takes the money back if he changes plans to go into town with mates instead of working :rotfl:) and has more understanding of money and the silly need to outdo friends.
IMO you talk too much to your son. Tell him NO and dont explain anything or discuss any futher. He is 18 not 8... and as for out doing his mates... seriously... honestly, he needs to grow up. We left all that behind when my son left junior school, thankfully
Even if you stumble, you're still moving forward.0 -
10 hours, 20 pages, near 400 posts about a teenager wanting a laptop for xmas and not getting one.
Has any advice been taken on board and not been met with resistance and reasons why not? Nope.0 -
Victory, now you either see him as an adult - or indulge him like a six year old - on your own head be it!
Victory isn't treating him like a 6 year old.
My son is 6. If he said he wanted a computer for Christmas, I'd say, "no." If he kept on about it, I'd say that Christmas was a time for being happy with all his family, and enjoying whatever presents he gets.
And he'd shut up.
Dealing with 6 year olds is a whole lot easier than dealing with 18 year olds, I reckon!...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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