My eldest has changed his xmas list

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the_cat

victory wrote: »

My OH says a gift is given if the person wants to not a god gven rightto have it and if you get one appreciate it , enjoy and be happy if you don't no one has to give you a gift.

Then why the dilemma? It's not as if you're gonna destroy his belief in Father Christmas is it!

Actions speak louder than words. I bet your son has heard that speech a thousand times. Only all he hears is 'blah, blah,nag, nag' cos thats what teens do, they switch off and just assume mum/dad is 'off on one' again.

You need to follow through. Consistently. Every time. Exactly the same.

It will take time as you have many years of getting his own way to undo. It will only get better if you steal yourself and DO IT

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thatgirlsam

I haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this is repeated

Are you sure its not a bit of emotional blackmail seeing as he knows you want xmas to be perfect

As in, I will ruin xmas if you don't get me x,y and z - Its very manipulative!

My ds who is 6 wants an x-box, he has written it on his list and has mentioned it a few times

I have told him straight out that he will not be getting one - As he still beleives he thinks santa will bring him one

I have told him that he won't (he got a wii last year and santa doesn't bring an x-box when you've already got a wii!)

I am not worried he will be disappointed on xmas day - and if he is well sorry if this seems harsh but its tough - I don't have the money for an x-box, end of

I think when he gets his other presents he will not be bothered

Are you sure your boy isn't just using your love of the perfect xmas day to get his own way?

Stand your ground and do not be manipulated!

mountainofdebt

victory wrote: »

The tag of perfect not so much, real life does not make perfect, perfect yes and no, do I want the food to be delicious, the turkey to be moist of course, do I want my two kids here with me of course, do I want to plsy silly games, enjoy a wine and have a laugh of course.

OH did talk to him about his being at the gf parents house and how is his there to how he is here and he agreed he doesn't and certainly couldn't go about his demands as he does here no.

The same same for each child is a given but cannot be if one is asking for a different £ and the other for a much more expensive £ item.

That was the general idea of same same £ wise until he upped the anti, he knew what he was getting because he asked for it and we said he could have it same same until he changed it.

Victory

When I said perfect, I think alot of us realise that if Christmas Day can be spent without arguing, turkey not giving everyone food poisioning or any other perceived disaster happening that that is as near to perfect as we'll possibly get.

As for the amount spent on each child, surely it doesn't matter what they have asked for, its a case of what you can afford to spend? So if you can afford to spend £150 on each child then that's what they get.

I always remember Junior moaning that he had to help me do the dishes whereas his mates didn't have to help ........I simply replied that it didn't matter what his mates were expected to do in their homes, in our home I expected him to help me.

To be honest it sounds as if he isn't that bad a lad (as demonstrated by his behaviour outside) - he's just needs to wake up and smell the coffee, realising that life is unfair and we can't always have what we want just by the simple click of our fingers

the_cat

victory wrote: »

Dilemna I had none until he moved the goal posts it was all going swimmingly until then:D

For crying out loud, they aren't his posts to move!
Ignore him

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