My eldest has changed his xmas list

Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

No, I did not make him demand a laptop as I did not make him have a very unrealistic demand for his 18th as I did not make him demand a trip to the USA paid for by us in the summer as I did not make him have envy and listen to his mates xmas list and drool at the mouth...

No, but you're the one not telling him to be quiet about it, that this is what you get and be happy about it otherwise you won't get anything.

You're the one not cracking down on him and letting him get away with his bad behaviour and language.

You're the one who is so scared of him being upset at you, you've let him grow up into this childman who thinks he can say what he likes to you and get away with it.

You should have come down on him like a ton of bricks when he started and been consistent ever since. Consistency and fairness is the key with kids.

~Chameleon~

victory wrote: »

His spending x amount of time at his gf is not it. spend all you like used to it fine with it , he is happy that is all I want but xmas day is xmas day, NYE he is going to London with all his mates, so what there is no need for him to be here, means nothing , xmas day does or not?

Ok, so now we reach the crux of the matter, you want him to be at home for xmas yet he wants to be with his GF, yes? So, in return for keeping you happy, he's demanding a laptop as a gift! :rotfl:

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Sambucus_Nigra

victory wrote: »

No not quite he always said he was coming here not an issue so no, what he has since said that he wants a laptop and then after as he was not getting one after the discussion said he would go to his gf because what is the point of being here if he did not get what he wanted for xmas and there was nothing to look forward to?

To quote a previous poster; you brought him up this way.

Can you not see this?

I'm NOT going to quote Sting lyrics but it's all there...for anyone to see.

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aliasojo

victory wrote: »

We do with other threads about other things posted by other people it happens I agree with it because it is the truth not many posters have had the same reaction the same answers the same views the same definetes, to get a thread open many opinions will come and to pick them out and use them I do often some work some don't, some are not useable and some are great, it is the same any thread any poster it always seems if you do not agree you get slammed

I hope you don't think I was 'slamming' you. I've been on the harsh end of threads like these before and I know how it feels to be frustrated and feel like people just don't understand.

I do think this situation has stemmed from more than just your son being greedy or selfish but I hope you don't feel I made my comments to you in an unkind way. That wasn't my intention.

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aliasojo

victory wrote: »

..... said he would go to his gf because what is the point of being here if he did not get what he wanted for xmas and there was nothing to look forward to?

And at that point you should have said 'ok, we'll miss you but we completely understand. See you when we see you'. Then dropped the subject and not said one more word,

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