My eldest has changed his xmas list

victory

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Nelski

People treat you in the way you allow them too and that includes your family.

Will you do anything different? No I bet you won't so don't expect everyone to be uber sympathetic when you post something else he has done.

victory

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kitschkitty

Your son doesn’t have a line or boundary to measure “behaving” against though. He is a child, in that his is your child and you are his parent. From the sound of things he would never be able to live up to what you want from him on a permanent basis.

Rebelling against your parents is a perfectly normal thing to do. Most teenagers do it, in their own unique and annoying ways! Indeed, being materialistic, comparing yourself to your peers, being envious of them, and thinking they have a better family/life is normal too.

The problem here is what happens/how all this is dealt with when a parents CHILD behaves this way. As teenagers are transitioning into adults and trying to work out how to behave and fit into the world at the same time – it’s a lot to deal with for both children and parents. No-one’s denying that.

I’m sorry you don’t like the style of my post, I was hoping it would highlight the situation, all this comfy cosy, understanding hasn’t helped you/worked for you, I wondered if a more stark and in your face approach (without me calling you names or being abusive would).

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faerie_girl

How old is he? At 18 I stopped getting 'proper' presents and got a token gift... even for my 18th birthday.
If he want's a laptop then he should get a job, part-time if he's still in education and save up for one himself.

RAS

victory wrote: »

You see thatis what I cannotfor the life of me understand how can a teenager that is given money my money, my OH money that he worked hard for and is happy willingly giving it over to a teenater who is saying to us that is not enough?
That I want more? That I expect more? Why?

So then I go loopy and take the whole lot off him, go on that he is ungrateful, who does he think he is? Etc and catch 22 goes around again

We do this all the time the kitchen board, deduct x for this attitude and y for that he huffs and hates it it goes back to normal he realises we stand by it he looses out he hates it we go back to normal...

The thing is honestly answer this question regardless of the laptop if we are offering x amount of money and he says not enough would you not want to punch him and take every last penny off him?

Sure we both do and we do and we have but from that he never learns and goes back to being a demander again

I have to highlight this.

This is a (not quite grown) man.

And you publicly humiliate him like this?

No wonder he behaves like a 3 year old with a star chart on the wall.

Stop it.

goblet_2

victory wrote: »

The storm they say passes d you think him being asked to leave to go to his gf for xmas will be?

Thats his choice, to make, I for one would let him decide fior himself, and you just worry about how many sprouts to cook. Try and relax a bit, no point in giving yoursef an ulcer.