What age to get rid of teddies/comfort blanket?

moomoomama27

I think it's lovely that he still wants his teddies/blanket! Kids grow up way too quickly, it's so nice when I read/see kids being kids!

I think the tub suggestion is good, that way if he wants he can keep them off display, but I wouldn't encourage that, just use it as an option!

My DD has loads of teddies, and she's 14. My nephew is 16 and still has a heap on the bottom of his bed! Sounds to me the other child isn't the 'normal' one!

victory

moomoomama27 wrote: »

Sounds to me the other child isn't the 'normal' one!

Thanks;)........................................

Lunar_Eclipse

I'd go with what your son wants, whilst talking through options to keep the teddies & blanket, but saving future repeat performances (eg could the blanket be folded under his pillow?)

I wouldn't encourage throwing anything away. We're all different and we 'need' and like different things. Whilst some might find this 'babyish', let's not forget that regardless, this new friend didn't act kindly in someone else's house.

mountainofdebt

Well Junior has 3 teds in his bedroom from when he was a child and if I ever tried to get rid of them,I would be for the high jump. He also has a blanket - affectionately known as the sickie blanket - which still comes out when he's under the weather.

OH (40+) still has two of his childhood teddies as well.

ceebeeby

I think I'm in the minority but am happy to accept others views ....

If I'm being 100% honest, I do think it sounds a bit woosy to have a heap of teddies and comfort blanket on the bed at his age. There's a whole "man-up" thing here about crying after his friend left cos said friend took mickey cos he's got teddies, and then reading advice to mumsy him and go the whole "in touch with your feelings" stuff.

Fair enough keep "the special one" somewhere getatable - but the others need to take a hike up a high mountain .... or the loft.

Just my thoughts and I accept they're different :-)

Kay_Peel

victory wrote: »

We have had this a few times before with other kids not quite understanding why son would have teddies/blue blanket and making comments.

This wasn't the first occasion, according to your post. Other friends think it's weird. Dad thinks it's unnatural. You see no harm in it and want him to keep his cuddly toys/comforters. Other posters agree with you but feel he should hide his things when friends come round - in other words, not expose himself to ridicule.

The thing that I don't understand is that if other boys find it weird, why was he surprised when this boy made rude comments? It's disingenuous of him to think that boys of his age will understand - they don't, as he has found out to his cost.

Are you absolutely sure that you're not treating him like a seven year old and that he's keeping hold of these things because YOU like his baby ways?

Do him a favour and tell him the truth:

Boys keep their love of cuddly toys/comforters a secret. It's seen as a girly/baby thing and that's why they hide baby things when people come to stay/play. If he insists on keeping them then don't go crying to Mum when friends laugh and ridicule him.

Listen to his Dad, too - he sounds more sensible than you do over this, Victory!

moomoomama27

Kay_Peel wrote: »

This wasn't the first occasion, according to your post. Other friends think it's weird. Dad thinks it's unnatural. You see no harm in it and want him to keep his cuddly toys/comforters. Other posters agree with you but feel he should hide his things when friends come round - in other words, not expose himself to ridicule.

The thing that I don't understand is that if other boys find it weird, why was he surprised when this boy made rude comments? It's disingenuous of him to think that boys of his age will understand - they don't, as he has found out to his cost.

Are you absolutely sure that you're not treating him like a seven year old and that he's keeping hold of these things because YOU like his baby ways?

Do him a favour and tell him the truth:

Boys keep their love of cuddly toys/comforters a secret. It's seen as a girly/baby thing and that's why they hide baby things when people come to stay/play. If he insists on keeping them then don't go crying to Mum when friends laugh and ridicule him.

Listen to his Dad, too - he sounds more sensible than you do over this, Victory!

I'm glad you're not/weren't my Mum!

jamespir

just move them when freinds come round nowt wrong with having teddies my gf has loads sometimes i have to fight them all to get into bed lol

System

I'm 25 and still sleep with the cuddly toy dog i had as a child

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

My kids never had anything taken away from them,I let them discard stuff at their own pace.
Anything they wanted to keep,they kept.
They're in their mid to late thirties now and still have some of their precious childhood possessions in their own homes,still on show.
There realy is'nt any reason to get rid of anything if the child wants to keep them,its not going to hurt them in anyway is it.