What age to get rid of teddies/comfort blanket?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

My DD is 12 and says that she would think that a boy her age with teddies on his bed and a blanket has feelings.

And his 'friend' that took the **** out of him probably has them as well and is trying to act all hard.



Perhaps if your DH were to be told that girls are more likely to be interested in DS than the other lad, maybe he would give him more leeway?

victory

Aww thank you to your DD that is really nice:D

sooty&sweep

Hi

I've seen grown adults in meetings with comfort blankets or rather a small piece of fabric that they fiddle with under the table. So your son is most definately not too old for teddies and a comfort blanket !

Good for him for knowing he wants and being willing to stick to what he wants even when he's being teased !!

Although somewhere more discrete to stash them when friends come round would probably make his life easier !

Jen

pukkamum

My son is 10 and has teddies at the bottom of his bed one of them he always sleeps with his head on, he did go through a phase of wanting to hide them when friends came round but after going to other boys houses and seeing they had them it made him feel better about it.
My DH also tries to say he DS is too old for teddies but we just ignore him and i remind him about Albert who i found stuffed in a cupboard the first time i went to his house that his mum told me was on his bed til the day before (he was 21!)

Also when my son went on the school PGL trip they made it a kind of rule that everyone took a teddy so that kids that needed them to sleep didn't feel silly or get teased.

purple.sarah

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

My DD is 12 and says that she would think that a boy her age with teddies on his bed and a blanket has feelings.

And his 'friend' that took the **** out of him probably has them as well and is trying to act all hard.



Perhaps if your DH were to be told that girls are more likely to be interested in DS than the other lad, maybe he would give him more leeway?

Your DD is very smart and perceptive, you must be proud!:A

milliebear00001

purple.sarah wrote: »

I still had teddies and comfort blankets when I was 12 but my friends weren't jerks! I think the main issue here is that he is being bullied. I wouldn't have that 'friend' back in the house.

I don't understand your OH's attitude, he doesn't want his son upset...so take away his comfort objects? Doing that suddenly could be upsetting! Putting them in a box while his friends are round is a good idea or phasing them out gradually. But I would also use this as an opportunity to explain that friends who pick on you aren't real friends.

It is a good idea to reinforce the idea that good friends don't talk to each other that way, but bullying? Really? I think there's a big difference between bullying and kids teasing each other. This sort of thing happens all the time between young boys and so the OP's OH has a definite point. While the OP's son has a perfect right to still be enjoying his cuddlies, it is also a fact that some boys his age will find that strange and tease him about it.

OP needs to find a realistic way forward, and I would agree that phasing the cuddlies out gradually, and discreetly removing them when friends are over, is a good way of achieving this.

marywooyeah

I think the chest idea is a good one, although he shouldn't be ashamed of having teddies he could save himself the grief of his "mates" making fun of him. His dad's approach will only make your son upset and make him resent his dad - he should be free to decide if and when he wants to clear the teddies out himself.

gingin_2

My 11 year old has a big soft alligator toy that we got from Toys R Us last year. It sits on the end of his bed. I think it's cool, maybe if you were feeling generous something like that might be a good compromise whilst the others sit in the box. I think it was no more than £10.

victory

I agree, I can see his dad's way of thinking so have compromised all round and he still has them in his room but has them in the box I found in his room and the blue blanket goes in there, so everyone is happy, he seems happy with it all and realises that his teddies etc are not been taken off him, not at all just to stop the teasing and everyone gets on they get 'put to bed' for a little while, as soon as they are gone back on his bed, sure I will phase them out but one thing at a time, can't see this being a problem when he is in his 20's so in the grand scheme of things no worries:rotfl::rotfl::D

As for bullying, don't think he was, just being teased as kids do to each other, no harm done:D

victory

gingin wrote: »

My 11 year old has a big soft alligator toy that we got from Toys R Us last year. It sits on the end of his bed. I think it's cool, maybe if you were feeling generous something like that might be a good compromise whilst the others sit in the box. I think it was no more than £10.

Thank you, I think my OH would kill me if I bought DS any other teddy:rotfl::rotfl: I see what you are saying though, great idea;)