What age to get rid of teddies/comfort blanket?

Anacrusis

Hi, my Ds13 and Dd10 still have soft toys (in wicker "washing" baskets in their rooms),as far as I know none of their friends have commented on it although dd and friends still play with the soft toys!

Have you thought about offering to hide the soft toys in you room when he has friends over? I second that he might want to ditch that horrible friend!!

Bennifred

The blanket could just live folded under his pillow.
My DS3 has just gone off to university and has taken the tattered remains of the blanket he's slept with since he was a baby!:cool:

victory

I am going to ask him when he comes back if

a) he wants to phase them out little by little (he said no but can always re-ask)

b) we can 'store them' in the basket in his room, later to move on to the attic, or maybe in my room

c) Whether seen as it is xmas he would like to 'donate' some to a charity (can't see that happening)
If I give him a variety of scenarios he might come up with one himself he is happy with and as for his friend well kids are kids eh?:D

victory

Bennifred wrote: »

The blanket could just live folded under his pillow.
My DS3 has just gone off to university and has taken the tattered remains of the blanket he's slept with since he was a baby!:cool:

Thanks the box I have found to 'house his teddies' at the bottom or even at the top the blanket fits folded down so it can either be a cover up for the top of the teddy box or at the bottom, probably best at the top then the contents of the box cannot be seen:D

We will get there:D

picnmix

Aw poor lad, this happened to my DD - she is only 7, had a friend round to play who teased her as she had Peppa Pig toys in her room, DD7 and DD3 love playing with Peppa Pigs house and castle, but apparently according to the friend - this is babyish :eek:, the PP toys have now been moved into DD3 room, but still get played with by both. It was my DD7 who moved them, but I have noticed they are slowly creeping back in.

Spendless

victory wrote: »

I am going to ask him when he comes back if

a) he wants to phase them out little by little (he said no but can always re-ask)

b) we can 'store them' in the basket in his room, later to move on to the attic, or maybe in my room

c) Whether seen as it is xmas he would like to 'donate' some to a charity (can't see that happening)
If I give him a variety of scenarios he might come up with one himself he is happy with and as for his friend well kids are kids eh?:D

IME of asking men or kids if they want to de-clutter by getting rid, the answer is NO!

I phase my DD's stuff out little by little but she doesn't know nor has she ever noticed. :shhh: Same for DS only a few weeks ago he mentioned the blue chair he has in his bedroom, apart from there is no blue chair I car-booted it at Easter. He outgrew it many years ago and it became in recent years a dumping ground for clothes and papers, but if I actually told him he no longer had it, he'd moan about it.

Special things/teddies I will keep forever though. Neice took her prized teddies to Uni with her for the 1st year.

pigpen

Sounds like he isnt much of a friend!!!!!!!!!! Id be surprised if your son wanted him back again!!

Leave the lad be.. if he gets enjoyment and comfort from a few bears and a blanket then why not.. does his so-called friend not have blankets on his bed?

My friend aged 37 still has her "sucky" (skanky old piece of cloth that was red at some point in a former life!) and my sister at 24 has her "elephant blanket".. which she took to hospital with her last year!

If DS wants to... and shouldnt be made to feel like he HAS to.. he could put his blanket under his duvet or pillow if a friend comes over and maybe a cover over his bears or sit them on a shelf.. or he could just say to his friends that he likes them so they are there and if they dont have any or have an opinion they can keep it to themselves he doesnt tell them what they can and cannot have in their rooms!

DS2.. aged 15 has several bears and monkeys on his bed.. and DS3 at 12 has twice as many... Mr Fish, at least 3 Pikachus, snow tiget, Bobbit (build-a-bear rabbit) dressed in batman costume!.. and loads of others. DS1 at 20 has Snowy.. a huge formerly white bunny he got when he was 3.

May be it is the friend who isnt normal!!! or who was deprived of cuddlies

purple.sarah

I still had teddies and comfort blankets when I was 12 but my friends weren't jerks! I think the main issue here is that he is being bullied. I wouldn't have that 'friend' back in the house.

I don't understand your OH's attitude, he doesn't want his son upset...so take away his comfort objects? Doing that suddenly could be upsetting! Putting them in a box while his friends are round is a good idea or phasing them out gradually. But I would also use this as an opportunity to explain that friends who pick on you aren't real friends.

vharbourne

My brother is 19 and still has his "baby" blanket. Think he hides it under a pillow but most of his friends now and are fine with it. Kids can be mean but he should do What he is comfortable with.

sock-knitter

one of my sons went to a resedential school from age 11 to just gone 16, and you'd be suprised how many teddies all the boys had. most would act with bravado, saying they didnt have them etc, but they were secretly hiding them in drawers, wardobes, under pillows etc.
when my lads left home this summer, they didnt take all the bears, but took a few favourite ones
i'm 40 and still have a teddy or two, and they sleep on my bed