Wedding I've just found out

Totally_Supurb

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victory

Depends what is the row about? Has it been resolved/talked about, is it repairable?

victory

If you are still talking then yes ask her, email her, text her, call face to face, I can imagine you are hurt and now with all the thoughts going through your mind will get a lot worse unless you go direct to your sis and ask her why you have not been invited, there could be all sorts of reasons, financial, keeping it low key, all sorts of reason and you will not know any of them unless you contact her and ask direct:D

SkintGypsy

Why would you want to go? You don't like her, she doesn't like you, why on earth would you want to be invited? I hate weddings of people I love and care about. I would certainly not lose sleep over a non-invite to the wedding of a person I don't wish to see ever.

Tish_P

"Should I feel" is maybe not the right question - you haven't complete control over how you feel. I know I would be very hurt. Are you close enough to her to call or write to say "I found out you are getting married, and just wanted to say I'm happy for you"?

Edited to add: I'd be hurt but I understand people often have good reasons they can't explain for this kind of decision so I'd smile, send a present and try to get over it.

Cara79

How did u find out? If ur mum doesn't yet know about it then perhaps they're inviting people last minute to keep it low key...how do u know u won't be invited? X

victory

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

the thing is as i'm not meant to know, she'll want to know how I found out, which I'm not able to say to her. I basically know she's on her and she doesn't know i'm on here and know its her

Crumbs life is complicated:D so, someone told you that knew but realised they should not have told you after they told you and asked you to keep quiet about knowing?

Whoever told you, either tell sis it was them or invent some other way of telling her you know, either way just ask her:D

SkintGypsy

Tit for tat? Really?

victory

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

should i feel p*ssed off that I spent over £300 on their family when I invited them to my wedding. we don't not like each other just nothings ever talked about face to face

Is it p.... or now that you are not invited to hers resentment? Unresolved issues obviously, not face to face then but email her, facebook, PM her, leave a message on her answering machine, get it sorted

victory

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

I suppose it is resentment. BUt I think i'm warranted in feeling it. Am i really being out of order?

If you did not spend the £300 with goodwill trying to get your sis and her family to your wedding, you did it because you felt you had to.to keep up appearances etc then yes

Tish_P

If they published banns you can say you found out that way.

I'd say feeling hurt and excluded is natural, getting resentful about money is a bit petty. "But I invited her to MY party!" sounds a bit silly if you're over six years old.