Wedding I've just found out

onlyroz

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

Ok my parents don't know yet because they haven't told them, I did because I didn't want them to be shocked with the decision of it so quickly and not inviting close family, only parents. I found out on here so didn't want it on my head i've known for a week or so and not told them. Not 'confuzzled' at all

I give up. My head hurts. So your parents don't know, but they do know because you told them, but parents are invited, but they're not invited. Nope, I'm lost - I'm off to bed now...

dirtysexymonkey

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

Ok my parents don't know yet because they haven't told them, I did because I didn't want them to be shocked with the decision of it so quickly and not inviting close family, only parents. I found out on here so didn't want it on my head i've known for a week or so and not told them. Not 'confuzzled' at all

how was that in any way your business? how dare you do that. its obvious to everyone that your jealous of your sister. you need to grow up and probably see a psychiatrist.

Kay_Peel

I think I'd feel really bad if my sister was having a big wedding and inviting everyone, but left me out. I would see it as a deliberate act to hurt me. I would be really upset if everyone knew about the wedding and I heard about it from a third party. That would compound my hurt and embarress me.

Your sister's wedding does not fit into my categories of 'deliberately and vindictively hurtful as well as embarressing'.

From what you say, her wedding guests can be counted on one hand nearly and everyone is being kept in the dark. if she makes an exception for you and your family then she'll have to invite her best mates and their OHs/children. At least this way she can say, truthfully: 'Look, don't get upset-I didn't even invite my sister for goodness sake!'

Sounds to me like she's not being deliberately vindictive, but I bet it hurts anyway. I'd feel hurt even if I knew that she had the best of intentions in keeping me out of the loop.

Accept her arrangements with good grace and as much dignity as you can. Try not to see it as a slap across the face or take it personally - easier said than done, I know - but just as something different to your own wedding.

By the way, your wedding sounded great! :beer:

Good luck!

Tish_P

Well, that was incomprehensible. Are you drunk?

dirtysexymonkey

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

i'm sure Martin would be pleased that his forums were attracting you sort of people. How am I causing trouble, my allegencies lie with my mother not her and if I feel my mum needs to know about it then I'll tell her. Shame you don't have that sort of commitment to your parents. You were probably one of 'those' kids that abused their parents trust and slagged them off at every opportunity....am I guessing,k yes then so are you. If people want to slag me off for doing it then go ahead. But i've come on here simply and thats what people don't get, simple to ask peoples opinions! I'm going to back up my decision to put it on here as i'm a person.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

thank you from the heart of my bottom for proving my post right. your a horrible, vile little woman who is probably deeply unhappy with your own sad life so you want to seek to ruin your sisters wedding, and her relationship with her parents. the best thing is that its clear that your mother knows exactly what games your playing and she must be so ashamed of you. youll find that out one day and itll be too late for you to do anything about it. which frankly is exactly what you deserve.

dirtysexymonkey

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

oh dear lord, you have no idea! how from this thread can you see that I am jealous of what they are doing? I WANTED all of my family and friends there because I WANTED to share our day with people. If you want to think i'm a green eyed monster then you have your sibling cut you out of a day, see how you feel and you tell me you won't post it on here???

and she doesnt want everyone there. instead of being a right-minded adult about it you showed your true colours and tried to upstage her by crying to your mother about it. you stalk your own sister. you ruin her moment. if you dont do that out of jealousy then you do it out of severe mental illness. probably both. id be happy for any of my brothers and sisters to do exactly what they wanted to do on their day. then again im not some psycho who has to stalk my sister to have a relationship with her!:rotfl:

dirtysexymonkey

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

thats really funny you should say that as my mum agrees with me. She thinks its pretty awful of them not including my family in it as its a small 'do'. And if you think calling people vile on here will make your life feel good then go ahead. You're nothing but a bully and calling people names will not fulfil your life as much as you think. I value my life very much and i'm very lucky to have a husband and family that I do and If you want to tell me i'm vile then go ahead. I'm not going to tell you your life is bad or your friends don't like you because there's no need and deserving things in life.... really? My dad died of cancer do you think i did something to deserve that

erm, you already have.:rotfl:

your poor mother probably just told you that so you didnt go off on her. you sound the type. if you think she cant tell that your playing games then you must have a very opinion of her. you said before that theres 'something not right' between you and your sister - its you!

what on earth does the cause of your fathers death have anything to do with this thread? unless of course your trying to get sympathy? hmm.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Short of sending her an invoice for the money you spent on keeping appearances up, there's not a lot you can do.

Making nice at other people's dos is all well and good, but perhaps she doesn't think it is worthwhile being a complete hypocrite and being all over you for the sake of FAAAAAAAMILY and all that on her special day.


Who knows - perhaps she was hoping to surprise everyone, including you - with something special and she was joyful because she is excited about marrying the man she loves and looking forward to the big announcement.


I shall watch the board for a post saying 'I am getting married and wanted to surprise everyone with our wonderful news at a special occasion, but my sister found out and because I hadn't told her first, she told everyone else I was being mean to her so the surprise was spoiled'

Gigervamp

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

maybe you should read the thread. They are inviting parents but no siblings from either side!!! I'm the only one locally

So it's not just you who hasn't been invited, there are other siblings who are not invited as well? So, it's not about your relationship with your sister.

I think it was wrong of you to tell your mum. You've taken from your sister the joy of telling your mum.

ETA. Not everybody wants a big wedding. I knew a couple who booked a holiday in Devon and got married there, using a couple of people they pulled off the street to act as witnesses. No fuss and minimal expense.

mummyroysof3

what sort of wedding your sister has and who she invites is non of your business tbh...and how awful of you to tell your mum instead of speaking to your sister about it. just cos you had a big wedding and invited everyone doesnt mean she has too..honestly some people argh