Wedding I've just found out

mountainofdebt

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

i think it'll reiterate what i've just said on the last post or two of mine, it was the shock of finding out and yes probably quite selfish of me, but its a human reaction to feel like that and after thinking about it I realised I was wrong so please can people stop verbally attacking me. I don't think i deserve to receive some of the abuse that I have on here since yesterday especially with some of the names i've been called. And no this isn't a sympathy vote its asking people to stop calling everyone else nasty names

You probably do but can't you see you came across as a spiteful person not so much in your reaction but by telling your mum of what was going on?

As someone said to me, it wasn't your story to tell.

Now I don't know how your sister is going to react to you spilling the beans - it may have started out as a difference of opinion but this could cause a split.

Personally I would be getting on the phone, hoping and praying that your mum hasn't said anything to your sister and begging your mum (if she hasn't) to play dull until she officially was told and at that moment, she should put on an oscar winning performance palying the surprised mum.

Good luck - it sounds as if you're going to need it sorting this one out.

mountainofdebt

halibut2209 wrote: »

It's one thing not being invited, but as the OP knows that's the sisters choice.

Bit mean not to say "We're getting married, but it's a small affair and neither of us are inviting siblings, just parents" though.

I'd be peed off with the latter, not the former

Why - the sister is obviously keeping it quiet for reasons only known to her (well and those on mse but I haven't found/looked for her wedding thread)

lizzielondon

OP i've just found the thread you're referring to and that you have commented on... does your sis know your ID??? are you trying to stir up trouble??

She sounds very happy and excited about her special day & very pleased at the mse aspect

You have completely misrepresented the situation

lizzielondon

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

why does everyone think that my mums going to tell her?? point is she's not going to and she agrees with me. The other point is that my mum and i are very close and over the last few years she's blamed my mum for stuff that wasn't her fault which has put my mums nose out of joint. They have never been as close as my mum and I which is why I told her.

you sound like a wonderful sister

Tish_P

She's probably keeping it quiet so nobody can try to guilt-trip an invitation out of her. Sounds sensible to me.

My OH's mum has given us her express permission to elope if we ever decide to marry. I'm not sure it counts as eloping if you get permission, though!

Totally_Supurb

thanks you for all your comments good and bad i don't think i need any more advice, over and out

vroombroom

how sad for your sister:(

I bet you silently count up how much your parents have spent on you and your sister at Xmas.....

mountainofdebt

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

why does everyone think that my mums going to tell her?? point is she's not going to and she agrees with me. The other point is that my mum and i are very close and over the last few years she's blamed my mum for stuff that wasn't her fault which has put my mums nose out of joint. They have never been as close as my mum and I which is why I told her.

But can you not see it wasn't your place to tell your mum - regardless of the relationship between you and your mum, your mum and your sister and the one between you and your sister.

I'm assuming from what you've said your sister is paying for her wedding. So if you replaced the wedding with the word party would you (and your mum by the sounds of it) be so put out? Of course you wouldn't.

tbh I doubt there's anything anyone could say that would make you see an alternative pov other than your own so as my mum would say I'm leaving this thread so that you (and your mum) can stew in your own juice.

Mojisola

lizzielondon wrote: »

OP i've just found the thread you're referring to and that you have commented on... does your sis know your ID??? are you trying to stir up trouble??

She sounds very happy and excited about her special day & very pleased at the mse aspect

You have completely misrepresented the situation

After the OP's comment "We'll see, won't we" comment on her sister's thread, I'll be surprised if the sister hasn't realised who the OP is.

Pollycat

I can't see that that can be the sister's thread.

The OP on there says:

I have no contact with my father and sporadic contact with my mother - invited her to my first wedding and she refused to come. So no family on my side at all I'm afraid.

and Totally Supurb says her sister is going to invite her parents.

It also mentions the OP having 2 girls and Totally Supurb says her sister has one child who was pageboy at her wedding.

Don't know about anybody else but I'm getting mightily confused.