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Wedding I've just found out
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It has taken me approx 30 seconds to figure out the other user name involved in this. She will soon find out that you know and that you've already told your mum which, in my opinion, was out of order for you to do.
I can understand you being upset and disappointed, and I'm sure that some of my friends/extended family are upset that we're only having a very small ceremony, however it is your sisters day and she has a right to do it how she wants. As others have said, if she was inviting other siblings/lots of family & friends it would be a different matter and you would have grounds to speak to her about it, however as it is just her, her OH & parents then yes you have a right to be upset but not to the extent of spoiling her thunder by ruining the surprise for your mum & causing such a fuss.
What you did for your wedding is irrelevant and you shouldn't expect invites/your daughter to be bridesmaid/whatever just because that's what was right for you & your OH.0 -
Seriously, what the h*ll is the matter with people on this site recently?
Your Sister hasn't invited you to her wedding, I'd be bl**dy furious if it was my own Sister and your Daughters Aunt. Friends come and go, family is there for life. Your Sister is a class 1 moron. I'd personally let her know how disappointed you are.
I totally disagree with this.
Just because you have a blood tie with someone doesn't mean you get on with them or even like them.
I can see why the OP hasn't been invited, it's a very small 'do' and the bride is not close to her sister.
I can't undestand all this 'we have to invite great aunt Sophie (even though we haven't seen or heard from her in over 20 years) 'cos she's family'.
And nobody has a right to be invited to a wedding, it should be the bride & groom's decision.Totally_Supurb wrote: »I WANTED all of my family and friends there because I WANTED to share our day with people.
OP, I think you should read what you wrote and think about it.
You invited who you wanted at your wedding.
Your sister is doing the same.
That's her choice.
It wasn't how you wanted to do things but it's obviously how she wants it.
OP, I did read some of the posts about you finding out about the wedding on here and your sister doesn't know because you haven't disclosed names, locations etc.
The point is, you can view other threads that people have posted on.
I've read at least one of the threads you started which might be a giveaway to your sister to who you are.0 -
Totally_Supurb wrote: »not been a row, just differences of opinion that seems to have caused a bit of a rift. But during all of the family 'days' everything has been fine. So should I say something, as i'm not meant to know. My mum will tell me when she finds out but i feel really hurt that she hasn't invited me as its only parents, and its not like we're a big family on either side
Do you mean that its only the parents that have been invited? If so, why are you complaining? She's your sister, not your daughter!
And as for moaning that you now feel p*****d off that you spent £300 on her family attending your wedding - well maybe she's a bit more MSE than you are!
In these days, settling for a small cheap wedding is far more sensible than splashing out and getting into debt for just one day!0 -
Wow!
Your sister is having a very quiet wedding with just parents there & you are having a strop.
The type of wedding she has is nothing to do with you & you were bang out of order telling your mum.
Stop being aggressive to people who give opinions & accept people have different views & opinions.Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
Anyone got links to the other threads. I've finished this one and still have some popcorn left
One important thing to remember is that when you get to the end of this sentence, you'll realise it's just my sig.0 -
send your sister a PM on here ." hi good luck with the wedding ,hope you are as happy as us signed your sister " wait and see what SHE says ."Do not regret growing older, it's a privilege denied to many"0
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Oh for god sake grow up woman.
Your sister isn't inviting the world and his wife but not you - she and her Oh have just decided to invite parents and no-one else - hows that snubbing you?
And as for this oh I invited you so you MUST invite me lark - !!!!!!? Presumably you invited her and her family to your wedding because you wanted to - andif you invited them becasue you felt you had to then again that was something that you decided to live with so shut up about it - its history its gone.
I'll tell you how you should feel - happy for your sister not throwing a sissy fit like Veruca Salt.2014 Target;
To overpay CC by £1,000.
Overpayment to date : £310
2nd Purse Challenge:
£15.88 saved to date0 -
i think it'll reiterate what i've just said on the last post or two of mine, it was the shock of finding out and yes probably quite selfish of me, but its a human reaction to feel like that and after thinking about it I realised I was wrong so please can people stop verbally attacking me. I don't think i deserve to receive some of the abuse that I have on here since yesterday especially with some of the names i've been called. And no this isn't a sympathy vote its asking people to stop calling everyone else nasty namesmountainofdebt wrote: »Oh for god sake grow up woman.
Your sister isn't inviting the world and his wife but not you - she and her Oh have just decided to invite parents and no-one else - hows that snubbing you?
And as for this oh I invited you so you MUST invite me lark - !!!!!!? Presumably you invited her and her family to your wedding because you wanted to - andif you invited them becasue you felt you had to then again that was something that you decided to live with so shut up about it - its history its gone.
I'll tell you how you should feel - happy for your sister not throwing a sissy fit like Veruca Salt.0 -
It's one thing not being invited, but as the OP knows that's the sisters choice.
Bit mean not to say "We're getting married, but it's a small affair and neither of us are inviting siblings, just parents" though.
I'd be peed off with the latter, not the formerOne important thing to remember is that when you get to the end of this sentence, you'll realise it's just my sig.0
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