Away for weekend - MIL blew all emergency money

Emmzi

I've never had an emergency that could be covered by less than £100! Plumber, electrician, all cost more than that.

Personal opinion, and other's views may vary, I think you are being a tightwad and taking advantage. And yes, it IS too much to ask - what are you doing for her in return othr than calling her a bad MIL?

I wouldn't have told you about the cat until you came back either.

I might have taken the cat to the vert depending on symptoms.

merlin68

If it was a sunday, op the emergency vets charge £120. Just to get in the door then treatment on top. So she wouldn't have been able to afford to take the cat to the vet.
My neighbour had his kitten put down on a sunday and it was £190.

ska_lover

Op, your mother in law took the time to babysit for you for a weekend.

And now you are on an internet forum slagging her off for spending money you had left. How rude!

You say almost three figures, so she spent less than £100. Why shouldn't she eat out - do you begrudge her, even though she is giving up her weekend, begrudge treating her to a takeaway? I assume she fed your child as well. If you class this as a payment for babysitting, then over 48 hours you paid only £2 an hour for your child to be looked after. Very cheap babysitting.

squidge60

Sorry but you need to cut your mil some slack she looked after your son/house didnt she.I think you sound so ungrateful.

You leave someone in charge its hit/miss they will do what you would do in the same circumstances.



Treat it as a learning curve for next time.:D

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ska_lover wrote: »

Op, your mother in law took the time to babysit for you for a weekend.

And now you are on an internet forum slagging her off for spending money you had left. How rude!

You say almost three figures, so she spent less than £100. Why shouldn't she eat out - do you begrudge her, even though she is giving up her weekend, begrudge treating her to a takeaway? I assume she fed your child as well. If you class this as a payment for babysitting, then over 48 hours you paid only £2 an hour for your child to be looked after. Very cheap babysitting.

Like I said before it works both ways with families. Should my wife insist that she pays her if she takes her out shopping then? By your rationale this is the case.

No, I dont mind spending the money. What I object to is being taken advantage of by a family member who it now transpires seems to have pocketed the change.

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squidge60 wrote: »

Sorry but you need to cut your mil some slack she looked after your son/house didnt she.I think you sound so ungrateful.

You leave someone in charge its hit/miss they will do what you would do in the same circumstances.



Treat it as a learning curve for next time.:D

But you expect a bit of thought for other people and not just themselves....

victory

I am not sure I understand why you left such a large amount of money in the first place? Just for a weekend away seems excessive? If you were able to leave that amount of money were you just leaving it but expecting to have some or if not a large portion back?
Were you just being over generous and not expecting her to spend it?

HappyMJ

merlin68 wrote: »

If it was a sunday, op the emergency vets charge £120. Just to get in the door then treatment on top. So she wouldn't have been able to afford to take the cat to the vet.
My neighbour had his kitten put down on a sunday and it was £190.

Lucky that isn't my vet. Anyway, the vet has my name, number and address and if I were to leave my cat in the care of someone else the vet will charge me by sending me an invoice. I don't need to pay on the day to get treatment.

Wickedkitten

I agree, it's taking the !!!!. I've watched after relatives children on weekends before and whilst they have given me money for expenses and emergencies, I've never taken the !!!! with it. They might have expected me to, but I wouldn't because it's just rude to do that with someone else's money.

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victory wrote: »

I am not sure I understand why you left such a large amount of money in the first place? Just for a weekend away seems excessive? If you were able to leave that amount of money were you just leaving it but expecting to have some or if not a large portion back?
Were you just being over generous and not expecting her to spend it?

I thought it was polite to leave too much rather than too little....