Away for weekend - MIL blew all emergency money

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Nimeth wrote: »

What was it that the cat died of? I only ask because it could have been painful and that's just cruel on the cat all for the sake of £30. I'd be more than annoyed too if it was my cat! Spending that money on herself instead of a sick cat that can't help itself is pretty selfish imo.

I agree with Any and max, was she told this was emergency money?

Cat was very old anyway so might have been put down I'm guessing. But you're point is correct.

She didnt think or couldnt be bothered more like. She never even phoned us to tell us because it would have spoilt our weekend but did find the time to phone us to tell use she was having a bad day because the train was so busy (so she used a taxi!) and that her mobile was playing up (a true emergency that one).

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Lotus-eater wrote: »

How much is a "large amount for emergencies"?

almost three figures.

euronorris

Olokia wrote: »

She may have thought it was payment for looking after your son and couldn't she have rung you about the cat?

I don't see why she couldn't have paid for the cat out of her own pocket either.

If I was in her position, with or without the money left by the OP, I would've taken the cat to the vet and got it sorted for 30 quid.

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Olokia wrote: »

Not defending her because I'd have been more than annoyed about the cat but:

She may have thought it was payment for looking after your son and couldn't she have rung you about the cat?

Payment seriously. Perhaps wife should charge her for taking her out shopping then.

I discussed with her beforehand that here was money to go out, go to cinema, buy food etc. She even said thats way too much and she wouldnt spend that.

So I dont know what changed with her attitude.

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euronorris wrote: »

i don't see why she couldn't have paid for the cat out of her own pocket either.

If i was in her position, with or without the money left by the op, i would've taken the cat to the vet and got it sorted for 30 quid.

exactly !!!!!

the_cat

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/1920909

It's not the first time you have had trouble with her though is it? What made you think, given her previous, that she wouldn't blow the lot?

As an aside (although would have been my first consideration) I do hope that you are fully confident that she is no longer likely to get 'hammered' whilst caring for your son

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make_me_wise wrote: »

Probably going to state the obvious here but next time only leave what you are happy for her to spend. Any emergencies she can phone you and you can contact insurance companies etc. Surely this woman has a bank account and could have paid out on a card if another tricky emergency came up and you could have settled with her later. She does sound like a taker.

Next time maybe take your child with you and if you want some time to go out and about just as a couple then use this fab baby sitting service www.sitters.co.uk My friends and family swear by them and have used them when away as well as at home. They do hotel babysitting

Yeh. I just didnt want to be tight and leave them short.

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the_cat wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/1920909

It's not the first time you have had trouble with her though is it? What made you think, given her previous, that she wouldn't blow the lot?

As an aside (although would have been my first consideration) I do hope that you are fully confident that she is no longer likely to get 'hammered' whilst caring for your son

No. You're right. Maybe I put too much trust in her. Its difficult because its wifes mothers though and usually she cant see whats happening.

Not this time though.

Lotus-eater

I think you've just learnt your lesson. Don't leave her at home again with your son. Get someone else to look after him.
From what the_cat pointed out, you must have half expected it to happen anyway.

Ask your son if she drank alot.

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the_cat wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/1920909

It's not the first time you have had trouble with her though is it? What made you think, given her previous, that she wouldn't blow the lot?

As an aside (although would have been my first consideration) I do hope that you are fully confident that she is no longer likely to get 'hammered' whilst caring for your son

Yeh. Just rereading this thread....

To be honest, she does drink less than she used to. Wife did have a word a while back...