bit disappointed

NickyBat

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Isn't he still married?

What makes you think that?,.......or have i missed something

Pollycat

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Isn't he still married?

Well he was still married at the beginning of May 2011, although he'd got his decree nisi in August 2010.
The OP was posting that she thought he was dragging his feet with the decree absolute.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3217612

He really does sound like he's more trouble than he's worth.

Snuggles

Pollycat wrote: »

Yes, but she says he can easily spend £40 on a night out.


And why didn't he forgo whatever he spent in Argos and put it towards the ring?
Or pay his brother back?
Or pay more maintenance to his kids?

Having read the OP's other threads, I'd be running faster than Usain Bolt away from him.

I haven't read the other threads, but I agree, he doesn't sound like a catch! It seems as though the OP is perhaps focussing on the cost of the ring rather than opening her eyes to the real problems.

Bloomin_Freezing2

Just before my OH proposed I heard him in the kitchen rustling about and commented on him being a pig cos we'd just had dinner and now he was after more food. He came back into the living room, proposed one one knee and produced a ring made from tin foil! i kept that on my finger for ages before I got my 'real' one.

I can see where the OP is coming from, the Oh does sound a tight wad, he shoud've either waited as OP requested or used the money he'd spent on himself along with the 100 for the engagement ring. Then on the other hand I can say it does not matter how much the ring costs, it's what it stands for that is so wonderful.

I think the proposal was so wrong for the reason it seems to have been made. Good luck, I think it may be needed.

Percy1983

The price of the ring is meaningless, as it is I spent more on my fiancees ring but with that I got it custom made ring, got it valued for insurance and it came in at £2k but I didn't spend anywhere near that.

But I will say to her its more the time and effort I put into the ring than what its worth. With that should did say she would have said yes if I used an onion ring (she doesn't even like them), but I did ask if I should take it back and get my money back to which she won't let me.

dirtysexymonkey

bloody nora! the woman sleeps with a married man, does all she can to get him away from his wife and kids, he can barely afford to live, she supports him in giving just £5 A WEEK in maintenance for his kids, but demands that he saves up for months and spends a fortune on ring for her!!! sickening!

dirtysexymonkey

Rebecca01 wrote: »

Am I missing something, where did the OP state this?

her first post. it was all 'woe is me ive slept with a married man and stolen him from his kids but i want him so i shall have him!'. disgusting.

podperson

I think you know that's not really the ring that's the problem it's the lack of effort your partner seems to be giving to the whole engagement. He seems to have proposed on the back of an argument and then shown no interest in getting your ring - basically giving you a budget and leaving you to it.

When I got engaged we barely had two coppers to rub together, I didn't have any ring for 3 months and even when we went shopping together for one I knew that we couldn't afford anything expensive. Luckily I found one I loved for around £50 and I still wear it and love it over 10 years later. That was my choice though - if I hadn't been able to find one I liked in budget I would have waited a bit longer. I knew I was going to keep the ring for the rest of my life so I wanted it to be something I loved and something that had meaning for me - I can still look at it and smile.

When you look at your new ring are you going to think about how your partner loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you - or are you going to think that you have a ring that you don't really like and feel resentful because you don't feel your partner has made any effort with it? If it's the later then surely that's not a good start to an engagement?

Pollycat

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

bloody nora! the woman sleeps with a married man, does all she can to get him away from his wife and kids, he can barely afford to live, she supports him in giving just £5 A WEEK in maintenance for his kids, but demands that he saves up for months and spends a fortune on ring for her!!! sickening!

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

her first post. it was all 'woe is me ive slept with a married man and stolen him from his kids but i want him so i shall have him!'. disgusting.

I've read the OP's first thread and I didn't get that from her post.

She did say she was single and he was in an unhappy marriage.

I also can't see in this thread where she demanded that he saved up for months to spend a fortune (£39.99 - seriously a fortune? :rotfl:) on her.

izzybusy23

My engagement ring was a half carat princess cut solitaire with two baguette diamonds in the shoulders set in platinum; designer ring from the USA and cost $1000. Did it guarantee me the happy ever after? Nope.