bit disappointed

flower24

My engagement ring was £55, I really don't think price matters.

Does seem a bit rushed and unromantic though.

ikati5

My engagement ring was a cubic from Warren James £9.99, I wore it everyminute of everyday for 12 years.. when the stone finally fell out my husband treated me to a very expensive replacement that I am terrified to wear !!

16 years married, 26 years together ( well you want to be sure...!) If he's 'The One' a washer will do.. If he's not, keep looking!!

Good Luck x

Mani1978

Hi

i don't think you are being unreasonable. He didn't make you feel special, he proposed on a whim and then expected you to stick to a ridiculous budget. It's not like you demanded a ring right away, you were happy to wait until he had saved up.

It's not about the money, it's about the lack of thought and effort that went into proposing. Every woman deserves to feel special, I wouldn't ditch him, just tell him how you feel.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I've been naughty and have had a nosey at your ring - There is only 1 ring CZ white gold for £39.99

http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/2326115/c_1/1%7Ccategory_root%7CJewellery+and+watches%7C14416987/c_2/2%7C14416987%7CRings%7C14416988/c_3/3%7Ccat_14416988%7CCubic+zirconia+rings%7C14417007.htm

AND it was 1/3 of - very MSE

I dont personally see what your problem is with the ring - What style would you of preferred?!

It looks very similar to thins ring http://www.ernestjones.co.uk/webstore/d/8084998/9ct+white+gold+cubic+zirconia+ring/ which is £135!!

AND

considering he is skint, doesnt pay much maintainence towards his kids - You should be ashamed at wanting a more expensive ring whilst his kids go without

viktory

My husband didn't propose and I didn't get an engagement ring until we after we had married - and it was cheap. I didn't care one jot. I loved my husband with all my heart and was as pleased and proud as punch to be his wife. Gold rings come and go, marriages come and go. I've been married 20 years this November. Still got that cheap engagement ring. Sounds like you are miserable that he didn't try very hard or spend very much. Careful that the ring doesn't take on too much importance.

marywooyeah

the ring is quite nice actually - doesnt look like a cheapie!

my first engagement went pretty similar OP. me and my ex were in a paddleboat in skeg and he said I think we should get engaged. I just stared at him like he was mad (been together all of 6 weeks), then I thought it would be cool to have a nice ring so I said ok.

back home we went round the shops, he didnt give me a budget but I knew he was a cheapskate (at the time I just thought he didnt have much money) as he'd never even bought me a drink when we were out and made me give him petrol money every time we went anywhere. I was looking at rings in windows but was looking more at the price than the ring, and he said lets go in here, gesturing to a shop called "Half price discount jewellers" where he bought me (shock horror he actually put his hand in his pocket) a "gold" ring with a purple stone for the grand total of £23.50. Even the sales assistant gave me a sympathetic look.
I told myself that it was selfish to want more, but looking back yes the ring was crap but it was the way he ushered me in to a cheap tacky shop to find the cheapest possible ring, showed he didnt care about me and wasnt serious about being engaged.

He later cheated on me with 3 other women, sponged money off me and the day I miscarried he asked if we could have anal sex instead as "he obviously couldn't do it the normal way". needless to say it was me who dumped him!

OP your man really just sounds like someone who thinks a ring will placate you and plaster over the cracks. I'd get rid - do you really want to be with a man who puts such little effort and enthusiasm into getting your ring? whilst I agree with the concept that its not the cost which matters, theres nothing wrong with feeling a bit hard done by either.

bewilderedhelpneeded

I am disappointed in in apparent lack of effort to be honest - If he had turned up with a haribo sweet ring, got down on one knee and asked me properly I would have treasured that haribo ring probably forever. no, Im not bothered about the value of the ring at all, its just the fact that he does not appear to have made any effort, with the proposal, with saving (if he had said to me he had stayed in a couple of nights to pay for a ring I would have been over the moon!) Standing in argos flipping through a catalogue and his apparent lack of interest is what got to me. we could have been buying anything is the way it felt to me, not special at all!

pinkclouds

Romance is what you make of it. I made hubby get down on one knee to go through the motions because I wanted to tell future children that their father did it by the book. We didn't buy a ring because I owned some lovely rings already. If we had bought a ring, then I'd definitely have chosen it myself. Tbh, I'd have happily shopped on my own - hubby hates shopping and he doesn't share the same taste in jewellery as me.

Agree with (most of) the other posters. There's no problem with the ring. There's not much problem with the shopping. The problem is with the relationship. Something isn't working and I'd guess it's the communication - differing expectations.

bewilderedhelpneeded

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

obvious to me that you just wanted an expensive ring and dont care about who gave it to you. im disgusted. golddiggers and self appointed princessess make me sick.

Totally wrong - you couldn't have got me more wrong if you tried.

bewilderedhelpneeded

Rebecca01 wrote: »

I agree with others . If he had turned up Saturday morning with flowers and a cz ring , got down on one knee and made you breakfast in bed. Would you have cared how much it would cost , or would you be so happy at the whole experience , you wouldn't have cared?

I also think issue is the way he proposed , so you maybe feel cheated. He didn't plan it, it was a make up engagement. So it didn't seem as romantic. If he had ask yourself would the cost bother you?

I can see your point about him wasting money at the pub and not saving though.

Thats exactly it - you have hit the nail on the head