bit disappointed

puddles

My wife's wedding cost less than £100 and was also from Argos. We didn't have a great deal of money and even since I keep saying about replacing it but she wants to keep the original one and doesn't like expensive jewellery.

However, if I had had enough money for £40 nights out then I would have forgone those and got her a more expensive ring. He doesn't sound like he's all that bothered and didn't even help you choose, browsing the catalogue for electronics instead!

We have friends who have £1,000+ engagement and wedding rings and they desperately unhappy. My wife still has her cheap engagement ring, a modest wedding ring, and we've been together 13 years and are the happiest couple we know.

It's not about material value, it's what it stands for and the intent from both parties. Unfortunately your story paints a picture of a guy who values your relationship even less than the ring.

katieclampet

As other posters have said, it seems less about the value of the ring, and more about his attitude. If you arent happy, then you need to decide what you are going to do about it, but firstly WHY arent you happy?

Is it his attitude, his lack of interest or the fact that the ring is cheap that is bothering you? You need to discuss it with him.

Personally, he doesnt sound as if hes really that bothered, and it sounds more like a "makeup present" than a genuine commitment to sharing your life and future together. Good luck

katie

NickyBat

Have you spoken to him op?

poppy_f1

taking away the so called proposal it seems to me as if you changed your mind after speaking to your friend who was gushing about her ring and you couldnt compete and thats when it became about money

when i got engaged it was a 70quid ring from argos, ok the relationship didnt last but the cost didnt bother me

also think yourself lucky you got a ring, i have a friend that has been technically engaged for 2 years and is still waiting on a ring from her fella

mountainofdebt

Well putting the boot on the other foot what did the OP get her fiance?

Just for the record I got my OH a St Christopher which he wore every day until the link on it went (still has it though)

tilly2484

I agree that the issue isn't with the cost of the ring but how he has behaved and the way he proposed- well he didn't really propose- not properly.

Agree with what some others have said and that he is insecure and scared of losing you so made a rash decision.

I think the question isn't will the ring last or will I be able to put up with the fact I have a cheap ring but more "Do I want to marry this person?"

Hope everything works out for you hun :-)

Brighton_belle

I have always seen being engaged as a by product of the decision to get married. It is not an end goal in itself.

mountainofdebt

tilly2484 wrote: »

Agree with what some others have said and that he is insecure and scared of losing you so made a rash decision.

But for me the question would be why ?

Is he scared of losing the OP because he realises that she is the love of his life or that, given that he has left his wife for her, he is scared of being on his own.

Only the OP can answer that one.