bit disappointed

vroombroom

if you love your fella, who cares how much the ring was??

NickyBat

OP, I can fully understand what you have said, and regardless of cost you don't actually like the ring.
Since it is not going to come in for 2 weeks if i were you i would look elsewhere and find a ring you actually like, qvc (on tv) do a fab range called Tacori - not real diamonds but my god you would never know, i have one of their eternity rings next to my very expensive engagement ring and you would not known the difference - have a look at them.

As for the romance some men just aren't good at it - but over time you may find he will change a bit on that front as your love evolves over time.

Barneysmom

The QVC stuff is really good. When I lost the diamond from one of my rings i ordered one from QVC and took the stone from it and put into my ring. Nobody knows what I did and it cost about £12 :rotfl:

Maybe you should tell him how you feel, resnetment builds up inside if you don't talk things through. All of a sudden 20 years down the line you might just explode and give him a big shouting at and he won't know what he's done wrong.

rev229

No engagement ring, as we didn't have the money for one, cheapish wedding ring, cheap wedding in a registry office, no wedding dress, everyone happy! Been married 16yrs, no regrets and most important no debts well mortgage! Its not how much things cost or how big the wedding is its spending the rest of your life with the one you love!!

USM

I think you're quite right to feel cheated here, this is the worst proposal in the history of man - this guy is giving us a bad name.

When I proposed to my girlfriend earlier this year, I had saved hard for 8 months to afford the ring I knew she would want and had to put my own desire to buy 'man crap' on hold for that time.

I then waited until the perfect time on our holiday to pop the question. It's a story she'll tell for years to come with the same enthusiasm as the day it happened.

If he wanted to do it properly, he'd save, he'd wait - but like someone else mentioned, this is just a kneejerk kiss and make up gesture.

rachbc

My hubby proposed in a totally unromantic way - I wasn't in the slightest bit bothered - it wouldn't have been him to have made a big fuss or do something cliched like the down on one knee thing.

Are you usre this engagement is what you really want??

CH27

I think you need to address the problems with your relationship rather than feeling resentful about the ring.

Expensive rings don't buy or guanantee happiness.
I have a cheap engagement ring as we had no money. The ring means the world to me as it symbolises the hopes & dreams we had for our future.

Lotus-eater

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

i think this is more about marriage. after all when the mistress marries the man, she creates a vacancy. i think the op is scared hes cheating on her like he cheated on his wife and kids with her.

I don't think so, but I bet she is finding out why he was in an unhappy marriage right now.

The XW, if she came on here would no doubt be saying, take the useless !!!!lass bas***d, now you know why I couldn't put up with him. No money sense, no sense of commitment, doesn't care about anyone but himself.

He doesn't sound like much of a catch, I would seriously consider if you should be with him OP.

Pollycat

bewilderedhelpneeded wrote: »

I looked through the jewellery section of the catalogue whilst he stood next to me looking at electronic stuff in another catalogue. Only thing i could find that I liked that was within budget was white gold ring with CZ stone for 39.99. I pointed it out to him and he told me to go over to jewellery counter and ask lady to see it whilst he paid and collected for some other stuff that he brought. He was ages, so by time he had come over to jewellery counter I had already been shown ring and lady was checking if they did it in my size. He looked over my shoulder and said "will that do then?" so i nodded and said yes. he siad he felt a bit of a cheapskate but I said no one would know it wasn't a real diamond. anyway, ring in my size will take 2 weeks to be delivered to store so they will text me when its in so i can collect it.

I think it's as much about the way he went about choosing/buying the ring than the cost and composition of the ring.

He sounds totally disinterested in the whole business and if I were in that position, I'd put a stop to the engagement there and then.

plumpmouse

I'm another with a cheaper engagement ring and I love it.

But my hubby chose it himself and proposed in a lovely, romantic way that I'll remember for the right reasons.

I don't actually think OP issue is really with the ring but more the proprosal and what followed which tbh is awful! I get not everyone is romantic etc but he seems from the post to be completely disinterested. Him taking me to Argos and then playing no part in choosing the ring would have annoyed me!