bit disappointed

scooby088

I bought my ex fiance a full carat engagement ring, when we split she gave it me back, i spent 1600 on the ring and only got a small fraction of what i paid for it back. In hindsight i'd now buy a cheaper one but i ain't going to be in that position again but if ever i was i'd go for the cheaper option all the way. As others have said the quality or price of the ring isn't important it's the person you are with which is.

poet123

Mine cost £70 but it was chosen with love and care and is still going strong 30 years later. I could replace it with a whopper if I chose to but why would I? It is what it symbolises not the monetary value that is important to me.

OP I do think you need to send clear messages about your expectations of the relationship and whether he can, or wants to, meet them.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I cant believe no one has asked this already but:

Is he normally romantic? If not - WHY on earth would you expect him to be anything other than himself?

When my ex proposed to me it wasnt romantic at all but the fact he wanted to marry me was enough to have me beaming for weeks. The fact your not - suggests this isnt about the ring and more about your relationship.

A ring cost shouldnt matter - If your saying you would "beam" at a £500 ring and not the one he has got you then, I'm sorry, but I seriously doubt this relationship will last.

NickyBat

The cost of the ring is irrelevant, every woman who gets engaged wants a ring she LIKES, that could be £10, £100, £1000. or £10,000, and no woman wants to be sent off to go and find it herself while her fella buys what interests him - electrical things!!!!

I personally would have told him there was nothing i liked, simply because he couldn't be bothered to stay with her for 10 mins to look, that would have upset me as much as anything the simple lack of interest.

NickyBat

Here is a set
www.qvcuk.com
and its item no 695789 ..beautiful set for £59.

Wickedkitten

If you think he's going to change how he already is in order to ask you to marry him in a romantic manner, you are going to be sorely disappointed to find out that he is the exact same way he is now after you have married him.

red_devil

dosent sound very romantic at all. I feel like doing something radical lets get engaged dosent sound good?

Then he says he cant afford much will buying other items. Do you really want to marry him?

Rebecca01

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

i think this is more about marriage. after all when the mistress marries the man, she creates a vacancy. i think the op is scared hes cheating on her like he cheated on his wife and kids with her.

Am I missing something, where did the OP state this?

Pollycat

OP
has your fiance's situation changed since your posted this in May 2011?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3240582=

You said he owed £000s to his brother, yet in this thread you say:

bewilderedhelpneeded wrote: »

he goes out an awful lot to the pub and if only he would stay in for a bit or make other sacrifices to save up I could have chosen one from the jewellery shop that would have cost £250 or less. I kind of feel like he has spent less than £40 on what should be a very special ring for me when he can quite easily blow that on a night out when he goes out with his friends. If he had made some sacrifices ie staying in he could have saved up and the ring would have meant so much more to me.

bewilderedhelpneeded wrote: »

Do you think im being unreasonable and selfish?

I don't think you're being unreasonable and selfish, but, based on what you've said on this and other threads about your fiance, if it were me, I'd be seriously considering whether I wanted a future with this man.

Rebecca01

Pollycat wrote: »

OP
has your fiance's situation changed since your posted this in May 2011?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3240582=

You said he owed £000s to his brother, yet in this thread you say:





I don't think you're being unreasonable and selfish, but, based on what you've said on this and other threads about your fiance, if it were me, I'd be seriously considering whether I wanted a future with this man.

ahhh fair enough.