Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

purpletoenails

Just a quick update for those who are interested and have been following the thread.

Some people will no doubt be disgusted or disappointed in me, or worse, but the relationship is back on again.

I think the time was not right for me to walk away and maybe deep down I didn't really want to.

Person_one

purpletoenails wrote: »

Just a quick update for those who are interested and have been following the thread.

Some people will no doubt be disgusted or disappointed in me, or worse, but the relationship is back on again.

I think the time was not right for me to walk away and maybe deep down I didn't really want to.

Most of us will probably just be completely unsurprised.

aklmatthews

Sometimes it can and does have a happy ending every situation is different and everyone has their own reasons

purpletoenails

Person_one wrote: »

Most of us will probably just be completely unsurprised.

Yes I did originally write that as well in a longer post, but the site keeps logging me out and I was losing what I'd written, so I just wrote a quick version.

nickyhutch

Look after yourself, PTN. I'm not surprised (not in a nasty way) - these things are very hard to get out of or to work through to a natural conclusion. I think you already know that this is going to take a lot of time, whatever the outcome.

Pollycat

I'm not surprised either.

But I'm not disappointed or disgusted - it's your life and your choice.

As the thread progressed you obviously decided you needed much more than the relationship at the time was giving you.
In fact, in your very first post you said you were 'fed up with the situation'.

You've either settled for what you initially had or he's giving you a little bit more of himself.

You've obviously decided whatever it is, you're happy with that.

Lotus-eater

I for one am disappointed, but not surprised. All that for nothing.

victory

purpletoenails wrote: »

Just a quick update for those who are interested and have been following the thread.

Some people will no doubt be disgusted or disappointed in me, or worse, but the relationship is back on again.

I think the time was not right for me to walk away and maybe deep down I didn't really want to.

I am in no way disgusted in you at all or worse, I hope you can be happy, merry PTN:D

Bogof_Babe

Every action has a reaction, every choice has a consequence, mind yours and I will mind mine
life is so beautiful because you reap what you sow but what comes around goes around;)

Victory your signature is spot on for PTN's current situation.

I just hope for your sake PTN that you don't find yourself in a slanging match in a public place when his wife finally finds out, because the OW in my situation must have felt deep humiliation, unless she had the hide of a rhino. (She had the gob of a slapper, but that's by the by.)

To this day I can't get a straight answer when I ask OH what he thought would happen when I found out. No doubt your bloke hasn't considered that possibility either, or has decided to cross that bridge if or when he comes to it.

I fear you are simply putting off the inevitable. No progress and no resolution. I wish you would realise what a fool he is taking you for.

mountainofdebt

tbh I'm not surprised either.

All I can hope is that you are happy & prepared to be 2nd best for as long as someone else is prepared to let you be 2nd best.

I also hope that you manage to instill a better sense of self worth to your children that you have.