Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

victory

Yes Happy New Year to you all:D

purpletoenails

northerner77 wrote: »

Happy New Year to everybody who has genuinely tried to make constructive comments on this thread! All the best to PTN, hope it all has a happy ending for her in 2012!

Yes Happy New Year and big thank yous to everyone that has taken time to post on this thread

cheepskate_2

Hope 2012 is as kind to everyone, as they have been to others.

purpletoenails

cheepskate wrote: »

Hope 2012 is as kind to everyone, as they have been to others.

and the same to you cheepskate

Lifeisbutadream

A friend of mine is sleeping with a married man (she is married too) - they both just do it for sex as neither get as much as they want at home.

They are both happy with the situation.

Natty68

Can I add another perspective, not sure if it has already been added though. So forgive me if I am repeating what someone else has already added.

I was the other woman, and also married. We had a weird set up, or what was weird to some people. I met my "other person" through a friend and we immediately clicked. Now bearing in mind I am married..anyway this other person lived nearly 300 miles away from me. Anyway to cut a long story short I shared my time between this other person and my husband - I add that my husband knew about this. We had a mutual agreement - my husband knew he couldn't fulfill a certain side of our marriage and this other guy could. And as long as I didn't let it intrude into my life when I was back home with my husband he seemed to be okay with it. Actually I think he was okay as we had this talk over several times and he always said he was okay. He is the type of guy that would say what he was thinking and wouldn't hide how he felt. This carried on for 4 and half years, me "commuting" to my other home every other month. I basically had another life seperate from my husband, although I did call him every night.

At the time I was going through a very bad mental health issue, I basically didn't know I was ill with bipolar and this explained some of my actions.

Anyway the affair ended badly - I was heartbroken. But with my husbands continually care and support we have got through this - and after 7 years we are as strong as ever. Happier and more in tune with each other. My husband is now my rock, best friend and confidante. Something we never had until I was with this other person. In some ways it made us both see what we were missing and made us more determined to make the marriage work properly. It was also something I needed to do..if that makes sense.

I wouldn't suggest that anyone did this though as I know from both sides what pain it can cause, and how much you can lose. Thankfully in my situation I was one of the lucky ones and my husband stood by me, and it has made us stronger.

victory

Natty68 wrote: »

I wouldn't suggest that anyone did this though as I know from both sides what pain it can cause, and how much you can lose. Thankfully in my situation I was one of the lucky ones and my husband stood by me, and it has made us stronger.

You were lucky because I cannot imagine many husbands standing by and waiting for the affair to fizzle out and still be there making the marriage stronger, no

Errata

I wouldn't want an OH who would happily sit at home watching the telly in the full knowledge that at the same time I was having my brains shagged out by another bloke.

Lotus-eater

Errata wrote: »

I wouldn't want an OH who would happily sit at home watching the telly in the full knowledge that at the same time I was having my brains shagged out by another bloke.

Depends what was on tv I suppose.

Would it be any better if he got turned on by you getting rogered rotten by some other bloke(s) and then watched the video?

Any further news on the happy ending of the affair? Dunno about the ending, but the actual affair doesn't seem all that happy tbh.

victory

I don't think Ptn has given an update so must mean still on