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Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    fatvon there are a lot of scenarios there,not one of them says they both walk off into the sunset and live happily ever after just like in the films;)
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    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,810 Forumite
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    victory wrote: »
    fatvon there are a lot of scenarios there,not one of them says they both walk off into the sunset and live happily ever after just like in the films;)

    Very true - and as the title of this thread is 'can an affair ever have a happy ending?'.......
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Well not this time:eek:
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • seven-day-weekend
    seven-day-weekend Posts: 36,755 Forumite
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    Having read the last few pages, I can now see why someone might start a relationship with someone else whilst still being married (abusive relationship etc). But even in this situation, the original marriage should be finished asap, and the 'affair' in the open. Even these scenarios do not allow for lying and cheating for years, imho.

    As for forgiveness? Well anyone can make a terrible mistake, when perhaps they are crippled with anxiety and fear, or unhappy for other reasons, not necessarily to do with their marriages. If they truly want to make their marrage work, and so does their spouse, then it can be done. An affair does not have to mean the end of a marriage. I know at least two couples who have made it work.
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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Sure they can make it work but has the relationship not then been tarnished, lack of trust, obvious lack of respect for the partner if the affair took place in the beginning, knocks the self confidence , questions your overall view on things, the relationship, the meaning of marriage, the point of being in love, exclusive to each other, it has so many ripples, it effects future decisions, plans, family, friends, always at the back of the mind, corroding away....
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • essexgirly
    essexgirly Posts: 130 Forumite
    hey purple, not been around for a bit, hope your well and is there any news x
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    PTN will let us know if there is any news won't you PTN?:D
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    I hope PTN posts again soon just to let us know how she is doing and how life is progressing for her.
  • Li0nhead
    Li0nhead Posts: 16,922 Forumite
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    Basically if your looking to play about then at least have the decency to split up first.
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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Li0nhead wrote: »
    Basically if your looking to play about then at least have the decency to split up first.

    And on the debate will go..................:D
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
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