Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

euronorris

victory wrote: »

And on the debate will go..................:D

I think that is because another thread about affairs has recently started in DT.

Li0nhead

euronorris wrote: »

I think that is because another thread about affairs has recently started in DT.

Yep, thats where i found it.

victory

Just read it , it is always great for a debate if you are an outsider looking in and have never been in that situation, if you have then the pain inflicted will always have scars..............

halibut2209

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Having read the last few pages, I can now see why someone might start a relationship with someone else whilst still being married (abusive relationship etc). But even in this situation, the original marriage should be finished asap, and the 'affair' in the open. Even these scenarios do not allow for lying and cheating for years, imho.

An abused partner might not realise there's a "better world" out there until they find love with someone else. An affair can be the kick up the backside someone in this position needs to realise that they have worth and are special.

toocleverbyhalf

My husband left me for another woman and, after a tough 12 months or so, turned out to be a nicer person than my husband!! She has become one of my best friend & my kids love her. Also, my mum left my dad for another man who she married, and he turned out to be a wonderful step father.
My point is, that I'm not an overly nice person letting people get away with it, but my husband wasn't happy and neither was my mum and would probobly have festered in miserable marriages if they hadn't met their partners. I would have been miserable too, instead I have some wonderful people in my life. It all worked out well but not without a lot of hard work & compromise. I'm not telling you what to do, but sometimes there can be a happy ending. Good luck

Bubby

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I hope PTN posts again soon just to let us know how she is doing and how life is progressing for her.

I am guessing that the reason we haven't had an update is because there is no update;)

victory

PTN how you doing? Been a while.... how are you?

sabretoothtigger

I doubt she would update to say its turned out badly just so people can put the boot in, I wouldnt bother anyway

LisaB85

My self esteem took a huge knock last year so when I met a married man earlier this year I started to see him, I fell for all the stories about how he wasn't happy and didn't love her etc. I met him thinking he was single it wasn't for 4 weeks that I found out he was married.

Unlike you I never wanted him to leave her as his marriage was my safety net.

She found out after 8 weeks, turns out they had only been married 6 months and were trying for a baby! They split up, he turned nasty so I involved the police then they got back together and I'm probably thought of as the bad one.

I have seen him on a dating site (located in Essex now) since then so either he is up to his old tricks or he moved back to Essex and they have split.

I was a messed up idiot.

victory

sabretoothtigger wrote: »

I doubt she would update to say its turned out badly just so people can put the boot in, I wouldnt bother anyway

Many people on here have followed PTN's thread for a very long time and cared about her, wished her well, wanted the best for her, given great advice, given lots of time, I would not have thought people were on standby to put the boot in, hardly a very pleasant thing to do want to do to anyone