Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

victory

I have to take up the point someone made about putting their sexual health at risk, I remember a conversation with someone who was absolutely devastated, not so much about the other woman but more about AIDS, STD's and putting her health at risk when she had kids, she went for a test at the hospital because she could not sleep thinking that he had given her something, turned out not, she thought they were an item and was clueless to his other lady friends until he got caught out with a receipt, she has not trusted again

nickyhutch

victory wrote: »

I have to take up the point someone made about putting their sexual health at risk, I remember a conversation with someone who was absolutely devastated, not so much about the other woman but more about AIDS, STD's and putting her health at risk when she had kids, she went for a test at the hospital because she could not sleep thinking that he had given her something, turned out not, she thought they were an item and was clueless to his other lady friends until he got caught out with a receipt, she has not trusted again

So he hadn't infected her with anything?

missrlr

You know the answer but to validate your concerns base ... Go with your gut painful as it is now you can already see the end of the tunnel even if you don't want to.

God speed

POPPYOSCAR

Just read back a few pages and it all seems to be getting a little confrontational again.

Can we not discuss this without so much aggression?

neverdespairgirl

Whenever someone posts that (s)he isn't judgmental, doesn't want to judge, etc, you just know that should you click on their usernames, you'll always, always see posts judging someone else's behaviour, just not the type of behaviour about which the poster is commenting.

For example, Taadaa's comments above (and she isn't the only one by a long chalk, just the latest example), such as:

I don't judge other people. I don't expect them to judge me. End of.

and then see her judging other people:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/47420131#Comment_47420131

Her behaviour was indeed questionable, even heartless in the case of going underwear shopping the next day and doing cartwheels at the station....it indicates a complete lack of awareness of the impacts of her own behaviour, and a disconnection with the victim and her death. Which, considering the horror of what actually happened to Meredith, seems even more odd.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/46967487#Comment_46967487

It is a flaming cheek I think!! Cheeky beggar!!

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/37132104#Comment_37132104

There is no way I would leave my child with her. Fair enough she might be lacking in intelligence, however that very fact might mean that she is silly enough to try it again. And you wouldn't know either way if she had.

and also:

I fell out with my moh a couple of weeks ago, she had no interest at all except in pushing what she wanted, the last straw was when she turned up drunk and late to my hen night, didn't lift a finger to make sure it went well, didn't even offer to buy me a drink or ask if i was having a good time, then refused to apologise.

It is sad to lose a friend. But some people don't know what friendship means.

CH27

Everybody judges others at some time.

lostinrates

nickyhutch wrote: »

In your opinion.

He made his choice, out of love or cowardice (actually, I think leaving your wife is incredibly brave) and he's till here, 8 years on, whatever the reason was, and he's sat here rubbing my feet, getting my drinks, chatting to my/our friends online, talking about our weekend away in November, our hoildays next year, asking what time my DS is home form work, getting some supper ready for him, talking about what we're doing tomorrow and Sunday.... I think he's emotionally ready for me.

Yes, I did say ''IMO'', but then and its an opinion I stand by. Also, I was careful to use a word you had to avoid being confrontational.

I am however glad your relationship is good, I don't think you need to be so defensive about it. F|WIW we were doing pretty much the same here, but dh was rubbing my feet watching tv (he's had a tough few weeks and really didn't want to be chatting to any one other than us last night, and he made supper and our weekend away is this month. )

nickyhutch

lostinrates wrote: »

Yes, I did say ''IMO'', but then and its an opinion I stand by. Also, I was careful to use a word you had to avoid being confrontational.

I am however glad your relationship is good, I don't think you need to be so defensive about it. F|WIW we were doing pretty much the same here, but dh was rubbing my feet watching tv (he's had a tough few weeks and really didn't want to be chatting to any one other than us last night, and he made supper and our weekend away is this month. )

If I come over as defensive about my relationship, it's because some people (not you ) are attacking it. Telling me my OH WILL cheat on me? Based on ONE THING they know about him?

princessdreamer

Yes but the one thing we know is he is a cheat and no leaving your wife for someone else is not brave, leaving to be alone though is.

lostinrates

Soubrette wrote: »

I have yet to meet someone who has no character flaws or indeed someone who does not have a part of their character that is so lovely I wish I could be half the person they were in that respect.

I absolutely agree we all all flawed. But I have met people who have not displayed an aspect of their character so lovely I feel respectful of it. But then, I've met some pretty rum people as well as a huge amount of wonderful ones.