Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Taadaa

princessdreamer wrote: »

I'm sure you'll be lovely when he starts dating someone else. Of course he may be faithful and pigs will grow wings.

That is a really unkind thing to say. ANYONE can be unfaithful, under certain circumstances. Get off your high horse, it will hurt less than when you fall off it.

princessdreamer

Taadaa wrote: »

That is a really unkind thing to say. ANYONE can be unfaithful, under certain circumstances. Get off your high horse, it will hurt less than when you fall off it.

The truth usually is

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

The truth usually is

Oh come on. You know, for a fact, that my OH will cheat on me? The truth is that he might, just like he might have if I'd me him "normally". Had your OH cheated on someone before you? No? So previously faithful men cheat as well as previous cheaters?

VestanPance

Taadaa wrote: »

That is a really unkind thing to say. ANYONE can be unfaithful, under certain circumstances.

Anyone can, but not everyone will. That is the key difference.

Those that will show what many of us character trait we find vile and don't find excusable. Those of us that don't apparently all own horses, big ones too!

Taadaa

Yes, the truth usually is unkind.....going back to my point that anyone can cheat under the 'right' circumstances!! We are one of the only species on the planet that picks one mate for life. And we are the only ones that choose to live by subjective morals.

Urgh you again. Have you found some clothes yet? No not everyone will cheat. And good on them, for sure. So that gives them the right to sit on judgement for everyone else? I think not. You think so. I hope you have a lovely fulfilling life busybodying and assessing everyone else's choices. Sounds like fun but do you mind if I pass?

VestanPance

Those that don't follow that moral code should certainly inform others of that if they plan to enter a relationship with them then. Their actions do not work in isolation they impact on others.

deb68_2

purpletoenails wrote: »

Yes, I can see how it would look, but actually he does only go on the internet if there's nothing else he's required to do. I'm also 100% certain that he would put his children before me.

An so he should

lostinrates

Taadaa wrote: »

So that gives them the right to sit on judgement for everyone else? I think not. You think so. I hope you have a lovely fulfilling life busybodying and assessing everyone else's choices. Sounds like fun but do you mind if I pass?

this comes up over and over. if its not ok for someone to judge you what gives you the right to judge them for judging?

lostinrates

nickyhutch wrote: »

That's fair enough, and in a perfect, ideal world, being a perfect, ideal person, then yes. He's not though, and I don't think I would be either, in that situation. It's cowardly, I suppose, making sure you have someone/somewhere to go; again, though, there are worse things in the world than cowardice.

It also shows that thing we keep talking about...low self esteem and or respect and.,....IMO, lack of emotional ''readiness'' or being in the position to make a decision out of love and choice rather than ''selfish emotianal cowardice''.

Taadaa

That argument could go around in circles all day.

I don't judge other people. I don't expect them to judge me. End of. But if someone comes on here telling me how I can and should live my life, because it is their opinion and nothing more than that, without knowing me or my circumstances, and even sits there and tells me I am immoral or going to hell or whatever, then I have the right to ask who the hell they think they are for forming an opinion of me and my actions. Also end of.