Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

Yes but the one thing we know is he is a cheat and no leaving your wife for someone else is not brave, leaving to be alone though is.

The one thing you know about him is that he was a cheat. You subscribe to the spotty leopard myth, but I don't. He's not a cheat at the moment, and hopefully he wont be again.

Leaving an unhappy relationship is sensible and brave, whatever you leave to go to.

Marisco

princessdreamer wrote: »

Yes but the one thing we know is he is a cheat and no leaving your wife for someone else is not brave, leaving to be alone though is.

So by saying that, it means that he will always cheat?? Ah well, there are no recovering alcoholics, no drug users who have kicked the habit, no criminals who have turned their lives around then? What a sad way to look at things, that people don't have the ability to change.

Errata

Of course people have the ability to change, but not everyone will make use of that ability.

nickyhutch

Errata wrote: »

Of course people have the ability to change, but not everyone will make use of that ability.

So what qualifies princessdreamer to say that my OH wont/hasn't?

princessdreamer

Statistics still next question, most people do not change they simply stabilise for a while. a drug addict or alcoholic never recover they are always addicted.

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

Statistics still next question

Statistics qualify you to comment on the state of my relationship? Cripes. Statistics say it should raining like mad here. Blue skies, not a cloud. Statistics say my grandma should have died 8 years before she did. Statists say my OH wouldn't leave his wife (that's what you've all been telling PTN, isn't it?) - but he did. Lots more, I'm sure.

If you live your life by statistics, it wont be very thrilling.

shellsuit

princessdreamer wrote: »

Statistics still next question, most people do not change they simply stabilise for a while. a drug addict or alcoholic never recover they are always addicted.

They're always addicted? And that's gospel? Says who, you?!

What a load of rubbish! I know people first hand who were alcoholics, many many years ago. Some still drink socially like everybody else, and some don't drink at all. How are they still addicted?!



Nicky is quite open about her relationship and how it come about.

There are couples who got together through affairs and have stayed loyal to each other till their dying day.

People can change.

princessdreamer

All rules have exceptions, nicky is too vocal about how perfect her relationship is, if it was that perfect she would not feel the need to keep saying it was.

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

All rules have exceptions, nicky is too vocal about how perfect her relationship is, if it was that perfect she would not feel the need to keep saying it was.

I've not said it's perfect. I'm only defending because you're attacking, and because I happen to think you're wrong.

princessdreamer

Nope you view it as an attack maybe through your insecurities about your relationship. All I have said is he is more likely to cheat than someone who has not cheated before.