Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

euronorris

Pollycat wrote: »

I agree totally.

Same here. I'm sure this guy isn't the only hottie around. They are plenty of them!

purpletoenails

FatVonD wrote: »

To my mind I think that's actually worse than, say, falling for someone you work with and spend a lot of time with. Sleeping with somebody else's husband (or wife) just because you want a bit of 'fun' is beyond contempt.

PTN, your man is a walking cliche, I was wondering how long it would be before you said they sleep in separate rooms, (yes of *course* they do, just like they would have paid 2 single person supplements on their family holiday to have separate rooms and their extended family wouldn't have batted an eyelid :rotfl: ) but I really wasn't expecting to hear about the 'inviting the OW on a business trip' so soon after.

It didn't take me long to say it, I said it right at the beginning of this thread, and they had seperate bedrooms *at home* long before I came along. I've no idea what they do on holiday, it's none of my business and I don't ask.

As for the trip, well he goes on quite a few, he asked if I'd like to go this one time for the reasons I outlined in a previous post.

There's really no need to be so condescending in your posts

purpletoenails

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

No-one's perfect (-:

NB - that's the sort of statement I apply to leaving those stiffener things in shirts, rather than banging a random other woman for a few years.

If they've been 'banging' them for a few years, they're hardly 'random' are they?

purpletoenails

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Of course it's not just about sex. It's about some or all of deceit, betrayal, emotional cruelty, dishonesty and ego-massaging.

Or maybe it's because they have found in another person love, affection, attention, intimacy, fun, friendship or some other quality that their marriage is lacking?

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

Or maybe it's because they have found in another person love, affection, attention, intimacy, fun, friendship or some other quality that their marriage is lacking?

Well they should do the decent thing & end their marriage not carry on deceiving, hurting & betraying their spouse.

Errata

purpletoenails wrote: »

It didn't take me long to say it, I said it right at the beginning of this thread, and they had seperate bedrooms *at home* long before I came along. I've no idea what they do on holiday, it's none of my business and I don't ask.

As for the trip, well he goes on quite a few, he asked if I'd like to go this one time for the reasons I outlined in a previous post.

There's really no need to be so condescending in your posts

I hadn't realised you'd set up home in their bedroom wardrobe. 'We have separate bedrooms' is the second oldest and corniest trick in the book. The first one is 'We haven't had sex since 1952'.

victory

CH27 wrote: »

Well they should do the decent thing & end their marriage not carry on deceiving, hurting & betraying their spouse.

Agreed my aunty is here and she is 77 and was talking about it and she said in her day yes you did put up with a lot because divorce was frowned upon and in some religions and cultures still to this day divorce is a terrible thing but on the whole generally speaking divorce is possible rather than 'having to put up with it' making yourself and others around you unhappy when it can be prevented.

I am full agreement to try at a marriage because they go stale and can look boring and mundane but anything worth having is worth fighting for, if it really can not be saved then yes pop off and meet someone else:D

purpletoenails

CH27 wrote: »

Well they should do the decent thing & end their marriage not carry on deceiving, hurting & betraying their spouse.

Yes I totally agree with this and always have done, that's what I would do, but not everyone is the same.

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

Yes I totally agree with this and always have done, that's what I would do, but not everyone is the same.

So how can you think your married man is decent?

purpletoenails

CH27 wrote: »

So how can you think your married man is decent?

As I have said before, he is a very decent man apart from the fact he is having an affair. I'm not as silly as a lot of people on here think I am, he has some really wonderful qualities, which obviously are what made me fall for him in the first place.