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Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

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  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    lostinrates wrote: »
    Hang on...I think there are posts which try and say they are good at times.....

    Some posts on this thread have suggested affairs save marriages, that they stop people developing mental illnesses, and even a suggestion they might have stopped someone topping themself. And no, I'm not ploughing through the thread to find examples.

    We've also had the ''all love is precious and to be cherished as a preceious thing'' line.....which though sounds lovely isn't true in more cases than infidelity!

    Yes they have.

    Some affairs probably have saved some marriages etc. that is simply a statement of fact. But I still don't think that equates to saying that they are a 'noble and decent thing'.
  • deb68_2
    deb68_2 Posts: 302 Forumite
    An Affarir A Quickie or however people want to dress it up is wrong if they or the other person is in a realtionship
    if in a realstionship but still looking elsewhere then get out of that realationship
    dont hurt other people because you fancy a quickie or what ever,
    what goes round comes round
    It's an honour having such a lovely family and being welsh, what more could a girl want :rotfl:
  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    lostinrates wrote: »
    Oh, my dad does that too. DH doesn't thank goodness.


    No-one's perfect (-:

    NB - that's the sort of statement I apply to leaving those stiffener things in shirts, rather than banging a random other woman for a few years.
    ...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.
  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    gratefulforhelp wrote: »

    While agreeing with some of your views, are you aware that you are referring to yourself in the third person?

    People who talk about themselves in the third person make NDG nervous.
    ...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.
  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    scarlet55 wrote: »
    as i said in my first post it started out that way for me as i wanted no tie's..then it became serious and it was too painfull so i ended it..how many affairs start out as serious...how many relationships at all start that way....not many..

    So it was all about you - and devil take the hindmost?
    ...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.
  • nickyhutch
    nickyhutch Posts: 7,596 Forumite
    Banging a random woman - you do have a way with words. Can't you see that sometimes it's NOT just about sex?
    ******** Never be a spectator of unfairness or stupidity *******
    "Always be calm and polite, and have the materials to make a bomb"
  • gratefulforhelp_2
    gratefulforhelp_2 Posts: 9,286 Forumite
    POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
    But there are no shades of grey for me when someone has an affair just because someone has amazing eyes and they want sex without ties.

    There's poetry.
    nickyhutch wrote: »
    Whereas your OH fell for your wanton disregard of the full stop? :D

    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:He's my DH, and I think it was the fridge dedicated entirely to wine ;)
    neverdespairgirl wrote: »
    People who talk about themselves in the third person make NDG nervous.

    :rotfl:They make gfh nervous too, but not so much as the idea of DH banging a random woman. He's actually as likely to be banging a random man.
    Please do not confuse me with other gratefulsforhelp. x
  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    nickyhutch wrote: »
    Banging a random woman - you do have a way with words. Can't you see that sometimes it's NOT just about sex?


    Of course it's not just about sex. It's about some or all of deceit, betrayal, emotional cruelty, dishonesty and ego-massaging.
    ...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.
  • FatVonD
    FatVonD Posts: 5,315 Forumite
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    scarlet55 wrote: »
    as i said in my first post it started out that way for me as i wanted no tie's..then it became serious and it was too painfull so i ended it..how many affairs start out as serious...how many relationships at all start that way....not many..

    To my mind I think that's actually worse than, say, falling for someone you work with and spend a lot of time with. Sleeping with somebody else's husband (or wife) just because you want a bit of 'fun' is beyond contempt.

    PTN, your man is a walking cliche, I was wondering how long it would be before you said they sleep in separate rooms, (yes of *course* they do, just like they would have paid 2 single person supplements on their family holiday to have separate rooms and their extended family wouldn't have batted an eyelid :rotfl: ) but I really wasn't expecting to hear about the 'inviting the OW on a business trip' so soon after.
    Make £25 a day in April £0/£750 (March £584, February £602, January £883.66)

    December £361.54, November £322.28, October £288.52, September £374.30, August £223.95, July £71.45, June £251.22, May£119.33, April £236.24, March £106.74, Feb £40.99, Jan £98.54) Total for 2017 - £2,495.10
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,827 Forumite
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    FatVonD wrote: »
    To my mind I think that's actually worse than, say, falling for someone you work with and spend a lot of time with. Sleeping with somebody else's husband (or wife) just because you want a bit of 'fun' is beyond contempt.

    I agree totally.
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