Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

neverdespairgirl

euronorris wrote: »

I don't try to impress any guys, but at the same time, I don't like the idea of them looking at me and thinking 'Oh good God woman, you look awful!' :rotfl:

I don't ever wonder what people think of me in that way. I care about being appropriately dressed, obviously, but not whether random men think I'm attractive or not.

neverdespairgirl

wayneleon wrote: »

I believe that people turn up in each others lives for a reason. I am a very strong believer in 'fate' and what will be will be.

I'm a strong believer in people making their own decisions, living with the consequences, and not banging on about "fate" to justify bad choices.

scarlet55

I had an affair with a married man some year's ago...i have to say it was lust at first sight..he had the most amazing eye's.......I knew he wouldn't leave his wife especially while his kids were small........this suited me fine as i'm quite independent and didn't want to be tied down......we saw each other when we could..(about 3 times a week)
and for a few month's everything was fine...........then i knew i was really falling for him and it hurt so much knowing he was at home with his family while i was alone...i made the heartbreaking decision to end it........it took a long time to get over him and even now, many year's later i still have a soft spot for him...........recently he has attempted to contact me again...his kids are now grown up but guess what..he is still with his wife...i know that if i see him again all the old feelings will come back and i just couldn't go through that again so i wont be seeing him......:)

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Health and Safety. Hot things and naked flesh don't mix.

Ha! I think what I wear to cook most evenings might give the H&S peeps a heart attack! :rotfl:

euronorris

lostinrates wrote: »

I never burn myself ironing...oh I got a bad scar on my hand at school ironing, but that's it. Now, the cooker on the other hand....my shelves run very easily and often fall out when I'm lifting stuff out...and I never can resist the temptation to try and stop them coming out against my arms :eek:

Luckily I don't scar very easily.

I've burnt myself far too many times taking things out of the microwave oven (we don't have a proper one ). It sits on top of the fridge and I'm not tall enough to pull things straight out, so it is often at a slight angle, which I then misjudge and burn myself.

If OH is home, he insists on lifting things out of the oven for me! :rotfl:

euronorris

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I don't ever wonder what people think of me in that way. I care about being appropriately dressed, obviously, but not whether random men think I'm attractive or not.

Fair enough.

It's not just the men's opinions I worry about. I also worry about how other women perceive me.

I guess I care a little too much about what other people think of my looks sometimes, but it doesn't bother me enough to make an effort every day (h*ll, once a week is more like it!) so I don't see it as a huge problem.

Lotus-eater

euronorris wrote: »

Ha! I think what I wear to cook most evenings might give the H&S peeps a heart attack! :rotfl:

I think we need more info on this one.

I'm going for 2 stroopwafles tied up with string above. A rookworst sitting up from below and clogs on your feet.

Am I close?

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think we need more info on this one.

I'm going for 2 stroopwafles tied up with string above. A rookworst sitting up from below and clogs on your feet.

Am I close?

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yeah, sure, let's go with that! :rotfl::rotfl:

skypie123_2

nickyhutch wrote: »

Do you really believe that skypie knows how we adulterers feel "deep down"? Or that she knows we don't respect ourselves? No, that's just what she thinks we should feel like.

Do you really think Skypie cares what you adulterers feel 'deep down'?
I was speaking as to what a decent person with decent values who doesn't need to trample someone elses marriage or relationship to get a man, thinks.
Why would you want a man like that anyway?
You've seen his MO and eventually it will come round to your turn.
I couldn't live like that but if you choose to then that is your choice and we reap what we sow.

whitewing

scarlet55 wrote: »

I had an affair with a married man some year's ago...i have to say it was lust at first sight..he had the most amazing eye's.......I knew he wouldn't leave his wife especially while his kids were small........this suited me fine as i'm quite independent and didn't want to be tied down......we saw each other when we could..(about 3 times a week)
and for a few month's everything was fine...........then i knew i was really falling for him and it hurt so much knowing he was at home with his family while i was alone...i made the heartbreaking decision to end it........it took a long time to get over him and even now, many year's later i still have a soft spot for him...........recently he has attempted to contact me again...his kids are now grown up but guess what..he is still with his wife...i know that if i see him again all the old feelings will come back and i just couldn't go through that again so i wont be seeing him......:)

You OW are all so one dimensional, aren't you. Even when you're doing the right thing (ie not seeing him) it is because YOU can't bear the pain, not because he is still with his wife, still married and you have no place in their relationship.