Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Nara

It was so much easier thousands of years ago when no body knew how babies were made and we lived in groups helping each other out!

I believe humans were made to co-operate best in groups but ofc that all changes once you know the facts of life, men rarely want to support other mens children and sleeping with anyone other then your partner for the rest of your life is frowned upon.

I'm not saying having affairs is acceptable but I'm not sure humans are built to stay with one person forever, its a DNA thing programmed into us, safety in numbers and spreading the seed is the best way to reproduce.

Imagine if thousands of years ago people acted the way we do today, i think the human race may well have died out!

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

annoying sort a bit sad and dull, however we only have your posts to go by

Annoying in what way? Sad in what way?

victory

Uff can't you just agree to disagree and we can crack on with chattiing ?:D

purpletoenails

skypie123 wrote: »

Actually I can. I know that I would NEVER have an affair with a married man.
My own 'code of conduct' means I actually have respect for myself and marriage vows and I don't believe that applies to women or men who have affairs like that. You can dress it up how you like and tell yourself what you need to to get through but I think deep down you know that too.

Before I started having an affair with a married man, I would also have said I'd NEVER have an affair with a married man. and I do have plenty of respect for myself. I'd rather remain single than just be with someone for the sake of not being alone.

jonty1970 wrote: »

They tell the next woman what they think they want to hear. Anything to get in their knickers!
(of course PTN's married man isn't at all like that )

No he's not actually I've met many men in my time that will tell you any old flannel to get in your knickers, but he isnt one of them

jonty1970 wrote: »

It's horrible! and the people who cheat, are horrible! That goes for the other people outside the marriage who see married people.
You're HORRIBLE!

Wrap it up as "it's real love" "we are soulmates" "poor thing, the wife/hubby is horrible to them" etc etc etc!

It's wrong!
So there!

in your opinion they're horrible. If your opinion is correct then there are millions of people that are 'horrible' and probably you know and like a lot of 'horrible' people.

victory

I don't have the slightest problem with views, I have them ,we all have them that is fine, it is when a poster posts with such what shall we call it one dimentional, direct, rude, over the top view that they then insist we all have to agree with and keep harpering on until we do that gets my goat, to be honest we don't know PTN and I am damn sure that if we did in real life, we would never express an opinion with such disregard for sensitiivity and her feelings

purpletoenails

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

You have hit the nail on the head.

So can I ask, now that you do see this why have you not told him to stop all contact? I know it's hard but you know it has to be done.

He is out of the country until next Wednesday, and because of the distance/time difference etc I'm not expecting to hear from him a great deal. I'm planning to use this time to get my thoughts in order, have a bit of a breather, ready to properly sort it when he gets back.

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I actually suspect you think the chances that he will stay, and not leave, are close to 100%

I would say it was about 50/50 - I know he would love to be with me but I also know the thought of leaving the children makes him dreadfully unhappy.

purpletoenails

Bubby wrote: »

So far on this thread the poor wife has become a bad wife to a bad mother:eek:

I don't think I've ever said any such thing.

Lunar_Eclipse

purpletoenails wrote: »

I would say it was about 50/50 - I know he would love to be with me but I also know the thought of leaving the children makes him dreadfully unhappy.

I can understand that, as I'm sure we all can.

Situations like these are just so terribly sad. Life is not straightforward (thesedays?!)

Good Luck with your thinking and acting.

CH27

I had a good catch up with a friend at the weekend.
She is married with 2 children.

I was very shocked when she told me she was on the brink of having an affair with a date set for the first meeting.

I told her to sort her marriage out before she starts seeing anyone else but she just couldn't or didn't want to see the devestation she is about to cause.

My opinion of her has gone down a lot.

Bubby

purpletoenails wrote: »

He is out of the country until next Wednesday, and because of the distance/time difference etc I'm not expecting to hear from him a great deal. I'm planning to use this time to get my thoughts in order, have a bit of a breather, ready to properly sort it when he gets back.



I would say it was about 50/50 - I know he would love to be with me but I also know the thought of leaving the children makes him dreadfully unhappy.

Is he on another family holiday?