Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

POPPYOSCAR

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

It's one thing an adult child saying their mum was bonkers...you kind of have the right...but quite another the OW saying it.

Thank You.

Some would argue that I should not be saying it,even about my own mother, as some hold their mother up as some kind of saint no matter what they do.

MrsAtobe

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I had one of those!!!

Yes we children can turn out all right(well I like to think so!)

I had two of them! And I've been told that I've turned out as a very well adjusted person (by an old boss who knew what I'd been through, btw, not blowing my own trumpet, well, maybe just a bit:)).

So yes, we can turn out alright!

MrsAtobe

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Some would argue that I should not be saying it,even about my own mother, as some hold their mother up as some kind of saint no matter what they do.

I wouldn't, not if you realise that their behaviour isn't 'normal', and helps you to grow into the person that you want to be by not repeating theirs. I am getting there, but it's been hard work to eradicate the unwanted learned behaviour and personality traits.

POPPYOSCAR

MrsAtobe wrote: »

I had two of them! And I've been told that I've turned out as a very well adjusted person (by an old boss who knew what I'd been through, btw, not blowing my own trumpet, well, maybe just a bit:)).

So yes, we can turn out alright!

I just can't even imagine what that must have been like!!

And why not indeed!!

MrsAtobe

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I just can't even imagine what that must have been like!!

And why not indeed!!

At the time, I thought everyone's parents were like that, now I know different. You cope with it and move on, as you have done. There are things that my parents have said or done that I will never forgive either of them for, but this thread would go completely off topic!

Bubby

So far on this thread the poor wife has become a bad wife to a bad mother:eek:

MrsAtobe

Bubby wrote: »

So far on this thread the poor wife has become a bad wife to a bad mother:eek:

Just trying to show that the collateral damage from affairs/divorce can have an effect decades later:o:(.

POPPYOSCAR

Bubby wrote: »

So far on this thread the poor wife has become a bad wife to a bad mother:eek:

No I don't think so, we have just gone off on a tangent, thats all, as invariably happens on most threads.

Bubby

MrsAtobe wrote: »

Just trying to show that the collateral damage from affairs/divorce can have an effect decades later:o:(.

I actually know far more people who have been affected by their parents divorcing than their parents rowing

MrsAtobe

Whilst I'm sure that may be your friends' experiences, research suggests otherwise:

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/features/dont-stay-together-for-the-kids-rowing-parents-told-1879980.html

ETA apologies if this comes across as rude, it isn't meant that way. I am still a work in progress!