Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

jonty1970

Fix your marriage/relationship first.

If you aren't happy, leave. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind and leaving, to make a new start alone.

Having an affair and all the lies that go with it, is not right.

Don't still live with your hubby/wife, then sneak off to someone else.

It's horrible! and the people who cheat, are horrible! That goes for the other people outside the marriage who see married people.
You're HORRIBLE!

Wrap it up as "it's real love" "we are soulmates" "poor thing, the wife/hubby is horrible to them" etc etc etc!

It's wrong!
So there!

nickyhutch

jonty1970 wrote: »

Fix your marriage/relationship first.

If you aren't happy, leave. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind and leaving, to make a new start alone.

Having an affair and all the lies that go with it, is not right.

Don't still live with your hubby/wife, then sneak off to someone else.

It's horrible! and the people who cheat, are horrible! That goes for the other people outside the marriage who see married people.
You're HORRIBLE!

Wrap it up as "it's real love" "we are soulmates" "poor thing, the wife/hubby is horrible to them" etc etc etc!

It's wrong!
So there!

YOU think it's wrong, full stop. OTHERS think it's wrong, but can see how it happens. I've never wrapped up what I did in the terms you suggest, and don't even believe in soulmates.

For the record, I'm not horrible, and I wouldn't call someone I don't know "horrible", either.

euronorris

I feel like I'm on a roundabout here.

jonty1970

nickyhutch wrote: »

YOU think it's wrong, full stop. OTHERS think it's wrong, but can see how it happens. I've never wrapped up what I did in the terms you suggest, and don't even believe in soulmates.

For the record, I'm not horrible, and I wouldn't call someone I don't know "horrible", either.

I can see how it happens, but you talk about it or get out. You don't deceive the person you set out to love for the rest of your life, who you may have children with.

It is a horrible thing to do. I can't understand why some people get involved with someone who is married.

They are willing to cheat. Doesn't that say something about that person to you? That they aren't to be trusted!

You might have feelings for them ,but surely you say to yourself, hang on, they are married, I respect myself too much to get involved.

And keep your hands to yourself and say to them, "come back when you are single"

It's not hard to do.

It shows what type of person you are, if you get involved with a married man/woman.

This is going round in circles.

Has PTN got anywhere? Has the married man left his wife?

It's like a running soap opera!

nickyhutch

What I meant was that "it happens" that people don't talk about it and get out.

So Jonty - what "sort of person" am I?

Lunar_Eclipse

nickyhutch wrote: »

YOU think it's wrong, full stop. OTHERS think it's wrong, but can see how it happens. I've never wrapped up what I did in the terms you suggest, and don't even believe in soulmates.

For the record, I'm not horrible, and I wouldn't call someone I don't know "horrible", either.

I know you think that (we've been here before), but most of the time it really doesn't come across that way.

Lunar_Eclipse

euronorris wrote: »

I feel like I'm on a roundabout here.

:rotfl:

Such a good comment and perfectly timed (for my sense of humour!)

nickyhutch

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I know you think that (we've been here before), but most of the time it really doesn't come across that way.

What doesn't?

olibrofiz

Kept seeing this thread popping up, and it made me think of it's title, I was undecided. Actually read through a lot of the posts the other day (not all tho).

The word affair, to me, means the excitement of doing something you know you shouldn't be doing coupled with the possibility of getting caught. Putting yourself in the position of REALLY wanting something, and endless hoping that you will eventually get it all to yourself. That's what I think anyway.

There are two answers to the question 'can an affair have a happy ending' = yes for those that had the affair, left their partners and are together, no for those left behind to deal with the fall out.

princessdreamer

nickyhutch wrote: »

What I meant was that "it happens" that people don't talk about it and get out.

So Jonty - what "sort of person" am I?

annoying sort a bit sad and dull, however we only have your posts to go by