Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

candygirl

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I don't actually fancy anyone other than my OH.

I think Johnny Depp is a great actor and is good looking but I don't have any fantasies about being with him etc.

I said to my daughter about a young singer being attractive and sexy, as I could imagine all the young girls fancying him, and she called me a pervert!!

My SIL'S mum who's 60 plus is crazy about Johnny Depp:D:D

Taadaa

balletshoes wrote: »

Taadaa wrote: »

I'm not sure you have ever been in bodice-ripping-overthrows-everything-makes-your-face-ache-from-smiling love if you think that. The heart has it's reasons, and logic and control doesn't come into it.[/QUOTE]

clearly thats not the case, otherwise everyone would be jumping into bed with whoever they wanted to rip the bodice off, regardless of whether they were married/in a relationship or not.

every decision we make as an adult is a balance between heart and head.

....I disagree that everyone would be jumping into bed with each other. How often do you really feel the need to rip someone's bodice off? There certainly aren't that many people will feel that about - celebrities maybe but that's not real

Taadaa

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Sounds more like lust than love to be honest.

Huhhhhhh I dunno.......I think that you can have love and a bit (or a lot) of bodice ripping in the same relationship. Love doesn't necessarily mean sharing a life without passion.

candygirl

Taadaa wrote: »

balletshoes wrote: »

....I disagree that everyone would be jumping into bed with each other. How often do you really feel the need to rip someone's bodice off? There certainly aren't that many people will feel that about - celebrities maybe but that's not real

I've got a pic of my OH with my basque v loosely on him.I ripped it off PDQ:D:D:D:D

RainbowDreamer

My now ex husband cheated on me while I was pregnant with my second child. I had suspected it for a while, but had no "proof". As soon as I found out with proof I kicked him out and that was that. There is no way I could be with someone knowing for sure that they were sleeping with someone else. Leaving him was the best thing I did. I would never stay with someone who made me unhappy for the sake of the kids or for financial reasons.
I would much rather my kids had a happy mummy and to take on a ton of debt than be miserable.
I do think that the wife will find out sometime, and I am sure it will be even harder to deal with to know how long the affair has been going on. But will he then become faithful and want a proper relationship with his bit on the side if his wife finds out and kicks him out? I am not too sure he would imo..

Lotus-eater

Taadaa wrote: »

balletshoes wrote: »

....I disagree that everyone would be jumping into bed with each other. How often do you really feel the need to rip someone's bodice off? There certainly aren't that many people will feel that about - celebrities maybe but that's not real

About every half an hour

Not that I see that many bodices about any more tbh

layton55

FatVonD wrote: »

When she can't stand what any more, Layton? Do you mean you will carry on the affair in the hope she'll walk away when you have both hurt her enough?

Do you mind me asking also when/how long your date/length of time is or are you too going to play it close to your chest so as not to lose face when that time has elapsed and you're still hanging on?

no that's not what i meant, we've ended the affair already. i meant when she's just had enough of whatever she's experiencing with her husband - whether it's lack of trust, pain, lies etc etc.

giving it another month - it's a significant date in my life personally and i have plans in place for what will happen from that day forward whatever the outcome. not playing close to chest, just he doesn't need to know. i don't want it to influence his decision.

Bubby

layton55 wrote: »

no that's not what i meant, we've ended the affair already. i meant when she's just had enough of whatever she's experiencing with her husband - whether it's lack of trust, pain, lies etc etc.

giving it another month - it's a significant date in my life personally and i have plans in place for what will happen from that day forward whatever the outcome. not playing close to chest, just he doesn't need to know. i don't want it to influence his decision.

Then you will step in and have her seconds:D

He sounds like a real catch; untrustworthy, inflicting pain on his wife and a liar oooooooo please give me his number :smileyhea

victory

Bubby wrote: »

Then you will step in and have her seconds:D

He sounds like a real catch; untrustworthy, inflicting pain on his wife and a liar oooooooo please give me his number :smileyhea

0800 help me:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Bubby

victory wrote: »

0800 help me:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I do have to laugh, I had some friends round this evening and I told them about this thread.....no end of giggles:rotfl: