Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Errata

Those having an affair always try to justify it because the married one is fekklesss and the bit on the side believes boundaries don't apply to them.

FatVonD

layton55 wrote: »

i am sorry to hear that you were left to bring up your family. this is exactly the situation that cannot and will not happen. none of us will let it. his kids have always been the priority in all of this.

How will you not let that happen if you're waiting for him to decide whether he wants to leave his wife or not?

layton55 wrote: »

my MM has been going to MC for the last 6mnths and we have truly cut contact for the last 3months (apart from LC at work). i will never give him an ultimatum. that's not the way. hope you and your family are in a good place now

Could you tell me exactly how continuing the affair for the other 3 of the 6 months he's been in counseling has helped to improve his marriage?

I can only reiterate what another poster has already said, you are deluded.

euronorris

essexgirly wrote: »

I'm talking about friends, who I have grown with throughout life, who you have been through thick and thin together. I don't judge them whatever they do, I may not like their choices, but they are their choices and not mine. At the end of it, they are still my closest friends. I'm talking about FRIENDS here, not acquintances here.

I love and trust my friends and you know what, I know its reciprocated. Both with mutual respect, honesty and yes, trust


We trust each other, and that is something in life of which I can be assured.

Sorry, but it doesn't matter how long I have been friends with them.

If they enter into an affair knowingly, and continue it despite knowing the pain, upset and devastation they will cause, then they have completely broken my trust and faith in them. Completely.

They are no longer the person I thought they were.

Drag1

There is always going to be someone new, someone better, someone you lust and someone who feels the same way about you. How you handle it is what makes a difference in how it effects your current relationship. You are only human after all but some of us have more self-control than others. The question is which person you would like to be?

Drag1

There's always going to be someone better, someone nicer, more fun, more understanding and plenty more. How you handle it is what makes a difference to your current relationship. Think about what kind of person you want to be.

peachyprice

layton55 wrote: »

my MM

!!!!!!, will you stop calling him that. He's not 'your' anything, he doesn't belong to you in any way shape or form.

Pollycat

peachyprice wrote: »

!!!!!!, will you stop calling him that. He's not 'your' anything, he doesn't belong to you in any way shape or form.

:T:T:T

Peachyprice, I'm with you on that.

FWIW, I found layton55's post #2900 made pretty bizarre reading.

POPPYOSCAR

I don't think anyone 'belongs' to anyone.

I love my OH with all my heart and have done for over 25 years but he does not 'belong' to me, he is not a possession.He is a person in his own right as am I.

victory

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I don't think anyone 'belongs' to anyone.

I love my OH with all my heart and have done for over 25 years but he does not 'belong' to me, he is not a possession.He is a person in his own right as am I.

Oh at last someone who agrees with me:j:j:j I have this 'debate' with my girl friends and they do not see it like that, they say they are married to their OH and they 'belong together' they are 'one' they are 'united' I agree to an extent as without my OH I would be lost but even so he is independent of me, has his own idea, needs, hopes and dreams and is a person in his own right, as the both of us we are together but he is def not a possesion:D

victory

Drag1 wrote: »

There's always going to be someone better, someone nicer, more fun, more understanding and plenty more. How you handle it is what makes a difference to your current relationship. Think about what kind of person you want to be.

Can I please then have antonio banderas or mickey rourke(before he did that to his face) or just a day with Becks, come on I have been good and what is the harm in it?:rotfl:;)

I wouldn't do anything...............I promise.