Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

victory

purpletoenails wrote: »

I don't think I ever stated it wasn't morally wrong have I?

I do feel a bit sorry for your friends though, if your love for them is conditional on them meeting your high moral standards!

Go easy PTN, it is all a bit sensitive here;)

purpletoenails

Bubby wrote: »

Not high just the morals of any decent human being

in your opinion

POPPYOSCAR

Bubby wrote: »

Not high just the morals of any decent human being

Well, I like to think I am a decent human being and I have not disowned any of my friends/family who have had an affair.

candygirl

purpletoenails wrote: »

in your opinion

and mine:D:D:Dand a lot of other people I expect;)

Bubby

purpletoenails wrote: »

in your opinion

Do you really not see that it is morally wrong to be involved with someone else's husband? That is surely a basic moral? If he loved you the way you believe he does then he would not have been seeing you for the period of time that he has he would have left straight away. Do your children know what is going on? I would frankly be disgusted with my mum sleeping with someone that was also sleeping with someone else.

The thought of sharing a man with anyone makes me feel sick but I have more pride in myself than to do that (and more morals than to inflict that sort of hurt on anyone else)

CH27

purpletoenails wrote: »

in your opinion

But it is morally wrong to sleep & have an intimate relationship with someone else's husband.
You obviously have no resect for yourself, or for the marriage vows he has taken.
The pair of you are beyond contempt.

lostinrates

purpletoenails wrote: »

I don't think I ever stated it wasn't morally wrong have I?

I do feel a bit sorry for your friends though, if your love for them is conditional on them meeting your high moral standards!

A lot of love is conditional.

That doesn't mean its wrong. e.g. I guess you stopped loving the !!!! who beat you.....thank goodness.

And you partner has stopped loving his wife we think, so his love was conditional too.

yes, I'd stop loving friends who weren't terribly lovable and were damaging (not just or necessarily this way) towards themselves or others.

Frankly, I'd expect the same in return. And not just for ''poor'' behaviour either. People can grow apart. sometimes its because you stop having stuff in common, ''moral stance'' could be one of those things.

victory

This thread has had 2,789 replies and has been viewed 115,854 and PTN has not changed her mind;)

*Redhead*

I'm sorry, but I for one would certainly feel different towards people if any of my close friends or family committed an affair.

Especially after them being able to see what affairs do to people first hand.

I'm a 'decent' person but I wouldn't think twice about telling them how I felt about them splitting a family up.

But you never answered the question OP. If you got your wish and this man left his wife/kids for you, would you be happy for him to still be in contact with them? I sincerely doubt you would, and to be fair, you don't even get a choice in that.

lostinrates

victory wrote: »

This thread has had 2,789 replies and has been viewed 115,854 and PTN has not changed her mind;)

that is her perogative.

has anyone else changes/relaxed/confirmed an opinion? Its an interesting question to ourselves really.