Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

poet123

Thanks for letting us know. Hope you are OK? Take your time and grieve. Post when you feel able. Take care. I think you will know you did the right thing for all concerned.

MissMitch

PTN, I'm so sorry, you must be feeling terrible as you obviously love him deeply. Please take care and focus on yourself now and try any remember that the situation as it was was unworkable and robbing you of your peace of mind...who knows what may happen in the future, but I wish you lots of happiness. x

gratefulforhelp_2

That's very brave of you.

I sincerely hope you find someone lovely who is free to commit to you fully.

POPPYOSCAR

Purpletoenails, just read your last post and wanted to say I am thinking of you.

I think you knew really deep down that there was a good chance it would come to this, but even so, I understand you must be hurting badly right now.

It is also heartening to see so much support for you, understanding, and good wishes from all,( even those that have such opposing views).

Good luck, stay strong - you are doing the right thing, even if it might not seem like it at the moment.

essexgirly

PTN I have read your thread with so much interest. I'm truly sorry for you that you have shared something very dear to you and taken advice/criticsm/bashing in your stride. I'm sure you will deal with this with the diginity that you have shown throughout.

I can only wish you very best wishes for whatever you decide for the future. I would imagine that the last thing on your mind at the moment is meeting somebody else. Hopefully the hurt will fade in time and your strength will grow stronger.

Perhaps your decision is something that needed to be done, but only you and he can know fully about that.

As everybody else has said, you have a strong support network on here and hopefully in time you will gain strength to move forward.

I for one, admire your consistency and calmess throughout. Good luck










Originally Posted by purpletoenails
Not sure how much I'm going to be able to tell you but the relationship is over. Even though I instigated it, I am feeling pretty devastated and desolate at the moment.

lostinrates

Poor ptn....I'm a bit worried about her.

PTN are you ok? Are your kids around this weekend?

Kili

You know, Ive been looking at this thread title for months and building up the courage to post, but tonight I decided to.

Can an affair have a happy ending? In my case, yes, though not in the way I expected. This took place 5 years ago..

I've never been especially good at dealing with things emotionally, my Mother had a terminal cancer and I became her main carer, as well as caring for my family. This was a full time job on top of lots of other commitments (I was in Uni at the time). My OH didn't really understand I suppose, his parents were younger and healthy and he didn't really have a great deal of time for me nor I for him with everything else going on. Mum passed and It was then I met this person, a person who I now realise knew exactly how to manipulate me and mould me in a time I was at my most vulnerable. (I found out after I was not the first to fall for him in similar circumstances).

It lasted a few months, I think at the time he made me feel better in a way. My head was a mess and there was no baggage there I suppose. Either way it all came to a head and OH and I split.

A few days after the split OH and I talked properly for the first time in years, we'd both made mistakes which put our relationship where it was, we had both been very guilty of neglecting the marriage. We talked, we sorted out our problems and in a few weeks time we reach our 15th Wedding anniversary.

The affair saved my marriage in a weird way and we have never been so strong or so happy.

purpletoenails

Thank you to everyone who has posted messages of encouragement, they are much appreciated.

I've been out and about a bit today, keeping busy, trying not to be too much of a misery.

CH27

((( PTN )))
Stay strong hun.

victory

purpletoenails wrote: »

Thank you to everyone who has posted messages of encouragement, they are much appreciated.

I've been out and about a bit today, keeping busy, trying not to be too much of a misery.

Keep posting:D