Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

mountainofdebt

PTN

I can't say that I approved of what you were doing (not that you wanted my approval but you get my drift) but that doesn't mean I'm a total heartless cow dancing with joy over your misery.

The thing that strikes me about what you've posted (and I guess this is true of any affair) is that your ex only had time for you when he could effectively fit you in - in other words he probably wouldn't have been there when you needed a partner the most and everyone deserves to know that they can rely on that someone in their lives.

victory

I agree, it didn't seem often you saw him?

northerner77

Good stuff, following my advice PTN kicked Mr Selfish into touch and the next stage of this will be when she finds a decent bloke who values her. Then we can all cheer up on here!

Best
Thick Northerner

plumpmouse

purpletoenails wrote: »

Not sure how much I'm going to be able to tell you but the relationship is over. Even though I instigated it, I am feeling pretty devastated and desolate at the moment.

Well done PTN. It will get easier and I'm sure you will meet someone fabulous who treats you well!

I think you have been incredibly brave to end it and just wanted to wish you well

Emmzi

You have always deserved better, and now you have the space and freedom to work out what that is.

Well done, stay strong, don't look back. Ignore the emails and calls you will get in a few weeks when he gets bored with his reality. He has chosen that reality and it is not your job to save him from it.

Now is the time to live a fabulous, carefree, single life, and see what happens next!

Lotus-eater

purpletoenails wrote: »

Not sure how much I'm going to be able to tell you but the relationship is over. Even though I instigated it, I am feeling pretty devastated and desolate at the moment.

Good, now you can get on with real life and find someone who deserves you.

harrys_nan

Arwww PTN big big hugs for you, I feel sad and happy at the same time. I glad he has gone as you do deserve much much better but sad as I think you did really love him.
Time is a big healer and I hope with all my heart you meet a good guy and have a happy life xx

jonty1970

You have done the right thing.
Times does heal and you will be in a much happier place soon.

Try and do as many nice things as you can. Your mind will be spinning for a while, but you have to fill your time up with new experiences, to help you stop thinking about him.

Wishing you well and I hope you have some relief that you are out of the situation and in control of your life now, without this man in the background!

And when you do meet "The One" he will there for you at the drop of a hat!
Will put you first and will do anything to make you happy!

victory

PTN how are you this morning?

FatVonD

Stay strong, PTN, you have done the right thing (for you) even though it may not seem it right now and you're one step closer to finding someone that can commit to you in the way that you deserve.