Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Bogof_Babe

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I don't like texts personally. Can you not ring him and speak to him and ask him where he was?

When do you think you might go home? or do you not want to be with him right now?

I don't want to speak to him, it never gets us anywhere and I want to give him time to really understand what he's done. I'm fed up with lies and defensiveness.

I text to say I was thinking of going back on Weds as I need some paperwork, and that I'd been doing a lot of writing, and he'd better be prepared to do some reading and then talking. I ended with "Hope you're ok". I thought in view of his Saturday text he might have replied or phoned to say he was pleased I was going back Weds, but not a word, so either he is caught out by me having phoned on Sat if he wasn't out with our friends but with her, or... well I can't come up with any other reason for his silence, given his previous message about it being all his fault etc.

Sigh, I'll never understand men .

Bogof_Babe

Don't worry about me Poppy, I'm a tough old bird lol. I do appreciate your kind thoughts though.

VestanPance

radiography wrote: »

I hope I do. If I had looser morals - and knicker elastic - I could be shagging someone's rich husband and getting him to buy me presents instead of dating a fellow skint student

Remember kids it's cool to patronise young adults when they beat you in an argument and they hope and pray you turn in to a self centered broken moral compass just like they did!

That's right you just need to get old, sleep with other womens husbands and lose all self respect and morality. The sooner you turn in to a Gordon Geko/Thatcher with broken knicker elastic all the better. It'll show your matutrity.

It's not like all these older folk are passing off their bad traits and habits as life learning skills now!!

nickyhutch

This site could do with a "dislike" button.

victory

radiography wrote: »

I hope I do. If I had looser morals - and knicker elastic - I could be shagging someone's rich husband and getting him to buy me presents instead of dating a fellow skint student

wow, not studying social skills then?

POPPYOSCAR

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I don't want to speak to him, it never gets us anywhere and I want to give him time to really understand what he's done. I'm fed up with lies and defensiveness.

I text to say I was thinking of going back on Weds as I need some paperwork, and that I'd been doing a lot of writing, and he'd better be prepared to do some reading and then talking. I ended with "Hope you're ok". I thought in view of his Saturday text he might have replied or phoned to say he was pleased I was going back Weds, but not a word, so either he is caught out by me having phoned on Sat if he wasn't out with our friends but with her, or... well I can't come up with any other reason for his silence, given his previous message about it being all his fault etc.

Sigh, I'll never understand men .

That is strange that he has not replied.

I do understand what you are going through a bit - when it happened to me it was 10 years- not the 36 years that you have invested though.That must be really hard.

Do you know why she has left work? Presumably she still lives nearby for you to be concerned that he is seeing her?

Bogof_Babe

Yes I do know. Don't want to say too much, but basically she needs a full time job and the other one was part time.

She lives in a village a few miles from our house (which is on the outskirts of town). She actually has a live-in partner, who is a lot younger than her and allegedly a bit of a !!!!!!. She stays with him (allegedly) because she can't afford the rent on her own.

It would serve my OH right if the live-in partner came to find him and duffed him up, but I wouldn't really want that as I know who would come off worst - my OH is twice his age.

POPPYOSCAR

I know you are very angry and very hurt right now. But please don't let this turn you into a bitter person. The only one who will suffer if you are is you.

Take some time for yourself. If you can face it and feel up to it why not do something different, that you have never done before and make yourself feel good.

POPPYOSCAR

Have to say goodnight now. Hope we can talk again.

essexgirly

VestanPance wrote: »

Some people keep their morals, unlike some like you how obviously drop them when flattered by a married man.

Hate to say this Vestan..... but you are so bitter, I'm sure that in time you will sweeten, but at this precise moment.... You talk a load of b((ll)cks. Get over it