Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

POPPYOSCAR

purpletoenails wrote: »

Sorry, I'll try not to do it again

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

VestanPance

victory wrote: »

radio You really need to tone it down, there are ways of expressing an oppinion and yours is valid as ours is but there are pleasanter ways.:D

She's not aggressive in her pots, just honest. The fact people had to resort to attacking her age shows up just how well she out debated them on the subject. They couldn't counter the points she made.

rachbc

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh, thank you, but I do often i have my fair share of bites here. That's ok its an internet forum.....they itch rather than hurt

Also, the fact that I have communication problems (spelling, weird syntax, convuluted and odd words) at times REALLY annoys people.....who talk about educcation etc. When I explain I was a scholarship Phd student at one point...before a nurological illness hit and changed my life and my brain, and that in the last ten years I've had to relearn not just writing and talking in one language (I was biligual ''before'') but the very concept of language they hopefully feel a little itchy themselves.

OT but I have to say LIR I find your posts very eloquent and would never have guessed!

POPPYOSCAR

VestanPance wrote: »

She's not aggressive in her pots, just honest. The fact people had to resort to attacking her age shows up just how well she out debated them on the subject. They couldn't counter the points she made.

You believe that if you want to, but a lot of us feel differently.

I have come across other threads with posts by her and some of them have been aggressive in their nature as well.

VestanPance

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

You believe that if you want to, but a lot of us feel differently.

Because she's ran rings around them in the debate, hence the attack on her age. It was almost politician like the mob mentality switch to attack her age over the subject matter at hand.

Pollycat

VestanPance wrote: »

She's not aggressive in her pots, just honest.

No, she's aggressive.
You just believe she's honest because you share the same opinion.

You don't think this is agressive?

radiography wrote: »

I pity any younger women in your lives. You are simply unbearably !!!!!y.

VestanPance wrote: »

The fact people had to resort to attacking her age shows up just how well she out debated them on the subject. They couldn't counter the points she made.

She didn't out-debate me.

See posts #2146. 2147, 2148 & 2176.

She stated something as fact which simply wasn't true.

VestanPance

She did run rings around the lot of you. The debate thrown back at her was based on flawed logic, or attacking her youth.

Her response isn't aggressive it's responding to the cat like heckles on her being young and dumb. Of course none of those patronising posts were at all aggressive!

catkins

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

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What makes you say that.

We have been together over 25 years and are the same. We have two teenage children who tell us all the time 'to get a room'!!

Of course it is possible to have children and still have a very good and happy marriage but children do put a strain on marriage and most of the people I have known over the years that are divorced say that problems started when they had children and that without children their marriage may well have lasted.

Also, it may be coincidence, but most of the couples I know that are still on their first marriage and happy are childfree ones. I have lived and worked abroad and in various counties in this country so have met lots and lots of people over the years and found this to be the case. In my experience a very very high percentage of childfree couples remain happy in their first marriage whereas others have 2, 3 or more marriages.

We were undecided whether we wanted children or not - OH was not keen as he had had a horrible childhood. We decided not to have any in the end and there were quite a few reasons but one of them was that we did not want anything to spoil our happy marriage.

POPPYOSCAR

Pollycat wrote: »

No, she's aggressive.
You just believe she's honest because you share the same opinion.

You don't think this is agressive?




She didn't out-debate me.

See posts #2146. 2147, 2148 & 2176.

She stated something as fact which simply wasn't true.

Thats what I personally switch off from. People who state their 'opinions' as being a 'fact', when it is their own opinion and nothing more.

Marisco

VestanPance wrote: »

She's not aggressive in her pots, just honest. The fact people had to resort to attacking her age shows up just how well she out debated them on the subject. They couldn't counter the points she made.

No, I'm afraid it's nowt to do with "honest". Many on this thread have been "honest" about how they feel about affairs. She comes across as "preachy". As for age, some have mentioned it, but I have a granddaughter only a year younger, and she also has "strong" views, and there is nothing wrong with that. However, she would be the first to admit that she doesn't "know it all" (different when she was 16 mind, thought she knew it all ) and would never presume to "preach" to other people about feelings etc. I think people mentioned age, only insofar as she is still young, and might not have experienced things older people have.

Oh had a mate, who was adamant that he would never date any women with kids, couldn't understand anyone who did etc etc, I think you all know where this is going:D Yep, he met a woman with kids, fell like a brick, and as far as we know is still with her. Life happens, and you roll with the punches. You never know what is round the corner - just as well sometimes!!!