Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

Errata

radiography wrote: »

Sadly, I have recently discovered that lots of old people are silly and/or annoying and/or disloyal to their partners.

Aye, us 80 year olds are reet buqqers!

MissMitch

radiography wrote: »

Sadly, I have recently discovered that lots of old people are silly and/or annoying and/or disloyal to their partners. I thought age brought wisdom. Seems that some people are more analogous to milk than cheese - i.e. they don't mature, they go bad.

You just lost any credibility in your argument right there! Not meaning to be patronising, but life changes you in some very unexpected ways, some for the better, some for the worse. I honestly hope, in the next 20 or 30 years, you never have to experience life events that knock you sideways, turn your world upside down, shatter your confidence, and make you believe that actually life is not as cut and dried as you now believe. And I really, really hope that if that is the case, you realise just how fortunate you are.

purpletoenails

radiography wrote: »

So when I'm an old bat I'll go around seducing other peoples' husbands?!

If anything you should be ashamed that someone half your age has a better grasp of ethics and not acting out of self-interest than you have developed in your time on this planet.

Unbelievable.

Sorry, I should have known my comments would rile you, they really weren't meant to. I know how I was at your age, I know how my son is, I know how his friends are. All I am saying is that once you have experienced more of lifes rich tapestry, you may become more tolerant of other peoples life choices and behaviour.

radiography wrote: »

I hope I do. If I had looser morals - and knicker elastic - I could be shagging someone's rich husband and getting him to buy me presents instead of dating a fellow skint student

If that was aimed at me then I'm afraid you're wrong, aside from a couple of small presents, I benefit not at all financially.

radiography wrote: »

Sadly, I have recently discovered that lots of old people are silly and/or annoying and/or disloyal to their partners. I thought age brought wisdom. Seems that some people are more analogous to milk than cheese - i.e. they don't mature, they go bad.

My children think me and my friends are silly and annoying too (particularly when we've been at the wine)

Wait til you get past 40 and then see if you have the same opinion of 'old' people

POPPYOSCAR

purpletoenails wrote: »

Sorry, I should have known my comments would rile you, they really weren't meant to. I know how I was at your age, I know how my son is, I know how his friends are. All I am saying is that once you have experienced more of lifes rich tapestry, you may become more tolerant of other peoples life choices and behaviour.



If that was aimed at me then I'm afraid you're wrong, aside from a couple of small presents, I benefit not at all financially.



My children think me and my friends are silly and annoying too (particularly when we've been at the wine)

Wait til you get past 40 and then see if you have the same opinion of 'old' people

Ours too. Especially when we don't 'act our age' whatever that is supposed to be!!!!!

Aberdeenangarse

radiography wrote: »

So when I'm an old bat I'll go around seducing other peoples' husbands?!

If anything you should be ashamed that someone half your age has a better grasp of ethics and not acting out of self-interest than you have developed in your time on this planet.

Unbelievable.

Maybe, but perhaps you're not getting the old pork sword

justmel

Hi PTN,just about managed to catch up i think (lots of posts) and i think you have been incredibly brave to give him the ultimatum,i also see nothing wrong with allowing him a couple of weeks to think it over because if he does decide to leave he has a lot to consider in terms of practicalities and of course it is a big decision to walk away from the marriage and lifestyle that he has now,it wouldn't just be a change in romantic terms it would be changes in many ways.

Now you know i have sympathy for his wife and feel she has a right to know so that she has the chance to decide if she wishes to end the marriage herself but with that said you have feelings too and reading through the thread you do not come across as a nasty,desperate husband snatcher,you seem like a lovely woman who simply fell in love with the wrong man at the wrong time.

I do hope that you can come out of this without too much pain,obviously if he chooses to leave it will be what you hoped for but if he doesn't i hope you can stay strong and heal from this.

Whatever we think of him it is you that has spent the time with him,you that loves him and of course you have the right to be hurt if you are forced to let go,i hope that one way or another you will get a clear answer from him,i also think that you are incredibly patient and deserve happiness with or without him xx

Bogof_Babe

FatVonD wrote: »

I bow to your superior search skills!

The article has been cut a little and has lost the 'expert' box about the 5 different types of affairs but yes, that's it!

Have you still got the paper? I'd love to know what the 5 different types of affairs are.

POPPYOSCAR

Hi Bogofbabe

I hope you don't mind me asking - but are you ok?

purpletoenails

justmel wrote: »

woman who simply fell in love with the wrong man at the wrong time.

Thank you

I do actually feel if we'd met a couple of years later things would have been very different!

He will be thinking a lot about what to do for the best. I know he won't want to lose me, but I also know that he loves his children dearly and has worked incredibly hard to get the life he has now. It's a tough decision and I don't envy him at all.

POPPYOSCAR

purpletoenails wrote: »

Thank you

I do actually feel if we'd met a couple of years later things would have been very different!

He will be thinking a lot about what to do for the best. I know he won't want to lose me, but I also know that he loves his children dearly and has worked incredibly hard to get the life he has now. It's a tough decision and I don't envy him at all.

Can I ask why that is?