Husband gone, what now?

CH27

TooSad wrote: »

I know . I wouldn't ever in a million years change things without him asking for help to change it in the first place. He wanted to decorate when he bought his new sofas but then he never asked for help again. I think he thinks he is a burden and nothing is further from the truth.
But I don't want to force myself on him, but then again if he won't ask we are in a no win situation if you see what I mean.
Will broach it with him next week. I like the idea of buying things and saying I thought of you.
I have been following the preparing for winter thread on OS board, will get my head together with my sisters and see what we can come up with, he has mentioned that his fuel bills are extortionate. So maybe thats a good inroad.
Thanks CH27 x

Fuel bills & winter prep is a great way in.
You can clean out all his cupboards, check everything is in date & restock so you know he has enough food.
Check his draughtprooing etc.
Are his duvet & pillow ok?
Does he have a hot water bottle?

I find the trick is if dad mentions something I do it asap so he won't change his mind:D

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CH27

Also when i'm cooking hot pot, casseroles, cottage pie etc I do extra & freeze a couple a portions for Dad.

Victory it sounds as though we employ similar tactics:D

TooSad

Thanks to you both you have given me lots of ideas of ways to make inroads without causing offence.

I have started to make a list of what we can do to get his house prepared for winter.

Going to my sisters on Thursday for a pow wow as to where to start.

TS x

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TooSad

victory wrote: »

This may be a bit far fetched but youngsters these days would for a bit of money decorate could you not tell your dad so and so has 'offered to decorate for you dad' but you know that you have to pay so and so and then he comes in does the job, you and your sis pay him, your dad is happy you are happy all good?

Far too far fetched to have a painting party? Can't see your dad going for that one?:rotfl::D

Hmm, you have given me so much to think about Victory - Thank you

We did the painting thing for my gran (dads mum) last year she went away for a week we did the whole house, she is 87 now though.
Dad is only 63 and by no means "past it" but all the things I have been worrying and whittling about including the decorating were mums domain, so he has had to learn the vital things like cooking and washing very quickly.
I have a to do list, I have a to buy list all I need to do now is get together with my sisters and work out where to start.

TS x

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