Wrongly Accused, Urgent Advice Needed

whatamess_2

I have nothing constructive to add. Sorry,:o just my thoughts are with you at this time. (((hug)))

anon43_2

Edinburghlass wrote:

Check out the website quoted here by Savvy_Sue and look at the list of websites quoted there for websites that will help you.

Don't mean to sound harsh but MSE is not the website to find the actual help that you need at this moment apart from the suggestons given to you by Bossyboots and above from Savvy_Sue.

Pick up the phone and try CAB now as regards a lawyer for yourself and/or partner.

to be honest i dont want help now i think its all gone past the stage of help as i have no control of the situation whatsoever anymore
I have an appointment with a solicitor tomorrow apart from that i dont think there is much else i can do.
I think im more after a bit of support rather than anything else as i have nobody else i can turn to

Contains_Mild_Peril

At the risk of appearing unco-operative (which would be noted in sthe records Social Services keep), you do have the right to deny police permission to search your home if they do not have a warrant, and you also have the right to deny social workers access if they do not have a court order, though it would probably be best to be seen to be co-operating with them.
If they are alleging that your home is dirty, take photographs immediately, preferably with a camera which records the date and time. Photograph every room from every angle, then if they exaggerate the situation later, they are the ones who will look bad when you produce the evidence that it wasn't as bad they said.
If possible, try to have an independent witness, possibly your solicitor, present at any meetings, so that it won't be just your word against theirs of they contradict themselves again.

she also had the nerve to tell me i looked stressed out

I'd be concerned if you didn't!

anon43_2

Thanks Contains Mild Peril, im waiting for the batteries for the camera to recharge at the moment.
I did actually ask the police if they intended on searching my home they could at least have the decency to ask first and he looked at me and said oh sorry and carried on :mad: the social worker then decided that she was going to look around and told me 'im going to look in all the rooms now' i asked her if i had a choice and was told no :mad:

i think im more annoyed about the fact they arrested my partner in front of my children and upset my daughter in the process even when i asked them to do it in another room so not to upset her and they just completly ignored me :mad:

Glad

Anon - did they have a warrant to search your house? did they even ask permission?
regarding the social worker, it sounds unprofessional to comment on how clean/dirty your house was but Social Workers are constantly being slated for not protecting children from abusive adults so they are in fact trying to protect your children until your partner is found to be innocent,
if your daughters were upset at seeing this go on, couldn't you have taken them to another room yourself to spare them?
I think you need to get some legal advice rather than posting on a forum where people may not necessarily give the correct advice, although I'm sure everyone is trying to help.
The Police and Social Workers are doing their job by accepting your son may be telling the truth and protecting your other children until they are sure they are in no danger,
is there no one who could look after your daughters for a while for you to go down to the Police Station and show your support for your partner, could you offer to give a statement telling your side of the story? especially the fact that your son has done this previously and his injuries occured after he left your care,
the CPS will decide wether to proceed or not and any help you could give your partner will help them come to the right decision

skyeandeviesmummy

I have two children and I cannot imagine what you are going through now its every parents worst nightmare and I really feel for you. I went through a really bad patch recently and needed someone who wasnt close to me to talk to for support and I rang the Samaritans they were brilliant they listened and it was just great to speak to someone who wouldnt judge. I think that you need someone just to pour everything out to not advice as you say you will be getting your legal advice soon.

Here is their number

I am thinking of you. 08457 90 90 90 or https://www.samaritans.org

anon43_2

glad,
no they didnt have a warrant to search my home and nor did they ask my permission.
as for removing my children to another room they wouldnt actually let me or my children out of the room, they completly blocked the doorway there was no way i could have possibly got through (1 social worker 2 CPS and 4 uniformed officers) i asked them if i could get through and was told no i was to stay where i could be seen :mad: i then asked if they could move to another room and arrest him because it was upsetting my daughter i was told no again :mad:

tired_mum

anon 34 i am really feeling for you right now what they did in front of the other 2 kids was wrong you need all the support you can get right now have you got family close by? if you need to talk either keep on talking on here we will all listen or do as another poster said give the samaritans a call and just talk i cant put into words right now how bad i feel for you all but you have an appointment with the soliciter tomorrow so take a friend if poss just so they can listen as well and maybe take some notes for you as i know when you are stressed you sometimes dont take things in
loads of hugs for you all

lynzpower

Oh anon43 I feel for you I really do.

To state first, I have worked in Children & Families Socail Work for 5 years ( no more) and I am ever so slightly rusty on the legals, but do bear with me.

I write now in general terms
1. If a child makes an allegation of harm from anyone, SS do have to investigate and they also usually need to involve the police.
2. The interviews ( dont wish to undermine your feelings here, but they are much nicer than they sound.. sorry nice isnt the right word) It involves a specialist officer ( one with a lot of experience of working & interviewing children, and having undertaken very specialist training, it wouldnt be PC plod meeting with your son)
3. The upshot of this meeting is "is your son at risk of serious harm immiediately". I get the sense that no, the child isnt as he is resident in approved and accredited foster care, and even if your partner HAD harmed him then there is nothing to suggest that this would happen IMMIEDIATELY again.
4. The police have no right to treat your home like they have.
5. You have right to representation. I suggest you look for a family solicitor asap. http://www.fassit.co.uk/ might help http://www.sillsonline.co.uk/pubsoc.html a firm who may be able to help ( or look for one more local to you, as I dont know where abouts you are)

6. Please feel free to contact me via MSN ( Ive pmed you my msn contact) I am going for a dig around as I have some documents to hand to refresh my knowledge.

Do feel free to contact me.

Bossyboots

lynzpower wrote:

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5. You have right to representation. I suggest you look for a family solicitor asap. http://www.fassit.co.uk/ might help http://www.sillsonline.co.uk/pubsoc.html a firm who may be able to help

The OP needs a solicitor specialising in Children Law NOT family law. They also need someone local to them who knows how the system works locally and the personalities involved.