Wrongly Accused, Urgent Advice Needed

Voyager2002

love_lifer wrote:

sounds like there must be strong evidence taht your children have been abused. talk to friends and family and get some support to get you through this- they will help more than a website can

Very helpful and supportive -- not! Social services can and do get things badly wrong, but have to act on suspicion.

hollydays

We dont know the facts yet.Innocent until proven guilty.

love_lifer

hollydays wrote:

We dont know the facts yet.Innocent until proven guilty.

i agree but the police usually have a good deal of evidence when they arrest in these situations

rainbowrisin

love_lifer wrote:

sounds like there must be strong evidence taht your children have been abused. talk to friends and family and get some support to get you through this- they will help more than a website can

I don't see how you can form any opinion about there being strong evidence or otherwise from the information given. I think you should belt up if you're going to come out with twaddle like that. Yes, I'm being rude, but I think inflamatory statements like that are way out of order at a time like this.

I agree with you that the OP should get as much support and help as she can from where ever she can. Maybe us virtual beings can't help as much as "real" people, but we'd like to help if we can - either with practical knowledge if we have any, or just by saying we're there and care about the situation.

hollydays

The Police have to act on an accusation like this-they would be criticised if they didnt.Then the person is interviewed,then they MAY be charged.People do get arrested and released without charge.We just dont know enough .

Bossyboots

love_lifer wrote:

i agree but the police usually have a good deal of evidence when they arrest in these situations

No, that may not be the case at all. The boy has made a statement - it may or may not be true but he is clearly credible enough at this stage for them to need to take it further.

They must err on the side of caution and speak to their suspects. That does not necessarily mean they have any other evidence and they could be going on a fishing expedition, hoping that the interviewee will drop themselves in it as the chances of securing a conviction on the say so of a child with known behavioural difficulties is pretty slim.

wigginsmum

helen_vasey wrote:

or can they really act with total impunity and trample all over people?

Sadly they can - think of the Satanic ritual abuse cases in the Nineties like the Orkneys

love_lifer

rainbowrisin wrote:

I don't see how you can form any opinion about there being strong evidence or otherwise from the information given. I think you should belt up if you're going to come out with twaddle like that. Yes, I'm being rude, but I think inflamatory statements like that are way out of order at a time like this.

I agree with you that the OP should get as much support and help as she can from where ever she can. Maybe us virtual beings can't help as much as "real" people, but we'd like to help if we can - either with practical knowledge if we have any, or just by saying we're there and care about the situation.

why are you being aggressive? none of us know whats really happened do we?some of us are trying to offer balanced unemotive advice.

susiesue_2

keep us all informed. this situation must be a living nightmare and i can't begin to imagine what your going though.:wall: it is the worst think that a parent can go through shurley? i will be thinking about you and send you my prayers.:grouphug: as will all the other posters who send their hugs.

rainbowrisin

love_lifer wrote:

why are you being aggressive? none of us know whats really happened do we?some of us are trying to offer balanced unemotive advice.

I'm being rude because I don't think there is any strong evidence that the children are being abused from the information given, and I think given the seriousness of the situation to be suggesting that there is is really, really wrong. Try and put yourself in the position of the OP - how would you feel if someone posted as you did?
We don't know what the evidence is, and TBH unless we were part of the child protection team concerned, then it's none of our business.
Regarding unemotive advice - if you look at my other posts you will see that whilst I have every sympathy with the OP, I am also as sure as I can be that the agencies concerned are acting correctly in safeguarding the interests of the children in question given the informaton they have.
Yes, I do feel emotion for all those involved in this awful situation - it's called compassion, and I make no apology for it.