Internet Infidelities

skiTTish

Button21 wrote: »

Anyway, he rang and I didn't answer! So that is one nill to me! Psycho wife slowly gaining some self respect!!!:j:j:j

Be very careful of playing games if you want to stay together ( although i cannot understand why you would still want him )
But he (being a male ) will use you pushing him away as an excuse to go off with her !

jackieglasgow

Whilst I think that anyone woman who chooses to get involved with a married or otherwise involved man has dubious morals, I think the only homewrecker in this scenario is your husband. Having said that I would want to scratch her eyes out if I was you, so well done for remaining non violent.

jackieglasgow

Oops smudged my nail polish!

elvis86

Your first mistake was staying with a man who cheated on you shortly after you'd given birth to his child.

Your second mistake will be staying with him after he disrespected and betrayed you, your marriage, and your family again.

Button21

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Oops smudged my nail polish!

Oh dear, sorry about that!!:mad: There is nothing worse!

Button21

elvis86 wrote: »

Your first mistake was staying with a man who cheated on you shortly after you'd given birth to his child.

Your second mistake will be staying with him after he disrespected and betrayed you, your marriage, and your family again.

elvis86, yip, I know that! I often think of that. I was 4 stone heavier than I am now, just given birth and very vulnerable. We weren't married at the time and the baby wasn't planned so not the best of situations all round. I think I stayed because I was too scared to go it alone and just put up with it thinking things would get better.

He is an absolute workaholic and we have zero family time together! Sometimes I think we are just a business arrangement - he works all the time and I take care of the house, kiddies, finances etc. I am incredibly lonely and unloved. I don't mean to say that to look for sympathy, it's just the facts. I think I am used to it now though, and see him providing for us as his contribution as a husband/father.

In a strange way, this has made me revaluate my whole life and see things clearer. I need to be a better mum and spend more quality time wth my kiddies.

Ps.......he's rang a further 2 times........this is so not like me not to answer! He will be wondering what is going on! I know some posters think I am playing a game, but hell, it's making me feel better!! :j:j

Button21

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Whilst I think that anyone woman who chooses to get involved with a married or otherwise involved man has dubious morals, I think the only homewrecker in this scenario is your husband. Having said that I would want to scratch her eyes out if I was you, so well done for remaining non violent.

jackieglasgow, yip, I know that he is the one to blame. He is the one with loyalties to his wife and kiddies, not her. I know she is only party to this but I am still very angry with her none the less. If she had no idea about his life, and he had pretended he was single, I could forgive her.

ps.......it did take me all my strength not to slap her! In fact, I was contemplating pulling her 'Pat Butcher' style earrings from her lugs!! (that's ears in Scotland!! lol lol lol)

C_Mababejive

The non answering of phones is fine as a short term measure but really,we are avoiding some serious decisions here

Button21

C_Mababejive wrote: »

The non answering of phones is fine as a short term measure but really,we are avoiding some serious decisions here

Yes, I know. I'm not meaning to play games or avoid decisions, I am just mentally unable to deal with anything just now without losing it with him and letting myself down. This way, in my mind anyway, I am in control of the situation, not him.

MrsTinks

If it had only been the online thing I'd have been inclined to say that it might be a little over the top... but given he's cheated on you before I'm in the 2nd strike and you're out. If you DON'T then I would firmly believe that it'll happen again and again... sorry if that's not what you want to hear.
I think it's one thing to have a once off fling, it's foolish but possible to get over together... a second, even cyber, affair is unforgivable!
Oh and I'd tell anyone SHE knows too about it - but I'm vindictive like that